CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm in my second year!! PrincessJoJo, just be mentally prepared- the first two years are BRUTAL!!! I hear third yr gets a teeny tiny bit better in that they actually have time to shower, and fourth year is party year.
You'll have an exciting time though!! If you have any questions you can PM me. Good luck!
Thank you Choti!! It's definitely nice to get in touch with another female med student of similar background. I'm sure I'll have questions lined up for you in the coming months as I get closer to matriculation!
I bet you know more than me, but I thought 3rd year would be the most brutal of all! Whatever it is, one step at a time for now.
ahh..those two years of anatomy and biochemistry! TOBAH !!
I can totally relate to shahwaiz and chotijaan..it's hard to stay at home when you've been working for years.I am in a phase of being a non-practicing doc&a housewife cuz i had a similar view about it.but it's not always for breadwinning.some people dont have the stamina of cooking&cleaning&socializing all their lives esp when they have already invested time&efforts in studying hard.
Well I just started med school along with my husband this Fall. We are in our 1st year second semester. I know after I become a doctor I will definitely want to work reduced hours for my family because they will be my utmost priority.
I know of several doctors in my community that are the breadwinners(specifically doctors) in the relationship and their husbands help raise the child or work in a decent job. It all depends on your thinking and what your husband feels about you making more money than him.
I also know what you mean by wanting to stay home. At times when I am in biochemistry or histology I wish I could be home snoozing away but like you said we worked waaaay too hard for this so let's keep up the hard work and efforts and hope that it all pays off one day iA!
In a few years, inshallah, I know that I will earn way more then my future hubby- which I don't mind. I do however feel a tinsy bit sad that I will never be able to experience what staying at home feels like- like my mother, my aunts, my sister in law, and many of my friends enjoy, and will forever be a working mom.
This part reminded me of ''If your father is poor ... than its your fate ... but if your father-in-law is poor, than its your stupidity'' :D
In a few years, inshallah, I know that I will earn way more then my future hubby- which I don't mind. I do however feel a tinsy bit sad that I will never be able to experience what staying at home feels like- like my mother, my aunts, my sister in law, and many of my friends enjoy, and will forever be a working mom.
I have tons of friends that are physicans. One even has 3 kids during her residency. You can do it. Balance is the key.
You can take a break for a few years. My mom did when siblings were born.
You may be surprised that you miss work when you are at home
I’ve seen many many super-duper career oriented women who have turned into super-duper stay-at-home mommies after having kids. Something or another about unconditional love and other things.
I'd love to be the breadwinner and have all the Aunties gossiping about it behind my back lol. I think as long as one parent is at home whilst kids are too young for nursery/school and their needs are met then it's ok. One of the directors at my dad's hospital is a lady and her husband is a carpenter or something and they bring up their kids just fine, do think tho that some men have trouble with that concept and would feel inferior or embarassed about what others think. If the man is desi than he would have it 100x harder I think.
