Would you marry someone who is beautiful/handsome but not as educated vs. average looking but educated? If you had to compromise, which way would you go?
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Education does not neccessarily makes one smart. People have degrees but not smart enough to deal with simplest of issues in their relationships. I always go for smart people, good common sense to practically resolve any relationship issues no matter the looks/education.
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Mystique pretty much summed up what I was going to say.
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Market value of beauty is supremely higher. I could have never been happy with average looks.
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How do you judge that though? You can’t know until you live with them I suppose
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Education. That way he will have greater earning potential and will be able to afford plastic surgery and make himself prettier for my viewing pleasure. 
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haha
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It is a bit of an amature hour here, there are a lot of other things that come into play like how responsible, is the person pleasant, are they lazy, are they dependable etc. A handsome educated person who is slap happy is not worth anything. A good looking girl who is full of herself can’t be a good partner either so the equation is a lot more complex. There are ways of analysing and assessing intelligence, social skills. personal traits very quickly. You need to set your priorities and often will have to compromise on a few things. Also I have seen many educated people driving cabs and many trades people and entrepreneurs to be very wealthy. education does not equate to wealth.
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I should have mentioned considering everything else is the same in both and only those two are variable factors
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Very correct so people here are starting to think that EQ is way more important to be successful in every facet of life compared to IQ.
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Never marry a woman who does not take your breath away, it is a long hard life. Nothing is worth waking up next to a person who you are not deeply attracted to.
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Good grief. Mutual attraction has its place but the person you marry…no matter how hot they look…is a still a mere mortal and not immune to burping, passing gas, and waking up with morning breath and the corners of their eyes crammed with eye-boogers (I’m sure Pisi must know the medical term for them). Life is not a bollywood movie and your spouse will not take your breath away every single day…24/7. There will be days you’ll find each other annoying and that’s why character/personality are important too.
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There are several filters and insane attraction is the first and then you move on to other things. Beauty is hard work, here we dont call mere good genetics beauty. It involves in the person taking care of themselves, brushing teeth, flossing, cleaning the tongue and various other things. Eating apples, fruits and veggies keep skin glowing and breath fresh. We have a girl at our work and she invests in her appearance a few hours a day and the world kneels in front of her. Her beauty gave her everything she desired.
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I think in arranged marriages, men usually go for beauty over brains whereas women go for financial stability over beauty. Whereas in love marriages, neither matter.
@Pisiform
Beauty can be enhanced with some grooming or a lot of grooming, depending on what the man likes. The entire personality can change with some posture exercises, good skincare routine, good make up skills and an effort in how she carries herself. But enhancing the ‘brain’ part is more of a challenge.
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You beat me to it 
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Let’s say someone in your family or out of family showed interest to marry you. You know of times how they have treated their own mother sister, brother or anyone else related to them. But especially mother… incase of an outsider, a little background check through reliable sources about how they treat their own close relatives and your own assessment of their personality based on how you found them to be with you during your own personal interaction with them is good enough criteria to decide what they will be like living with you. One just have to be mentally mature, hsve an advanced level of analytical skills in reading people’s behaviours especially of those they have interacted with and must be an excellent judge of character.
Some people are so good that they scan through someone’s entire personality and habits and traits by looking at just a few of their actions or words they speak, to whom they speak. Life experience has taught them enough to know what kind of people to avoid. But some people spend a lifetime with wrong partners trying hard to understand them but still remain clueless. Those people are inept in relationships.
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If one chooses beauty, they’ll merely have an arm candy. But, if one chooses brains, they’ll have a life partner whom they can rely on in times of hardship, who can help them out, with whom they can have meaningful conversations about anything under the sun, who will nurture the relationship (assuming she has brains to be able to resolve relationship and social issues too and not just book brain), who you see as the one playing a major role in your child’s upbringing and so on.
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Now Bobby? I read that in college that EQ tools were being employed in companies and staff being trained on developibg EQ skills. That was not in recent years but before. Still I think both play an important role. IQ & EQ. There are times when companies need IQ smart people to generate more profits. Then there are times & some departmental roles where EQ is more important. And then there are times and roles that require a bit of both or MOST of both.
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Recently I rejected a smart girl for a pretty one, I kinda regret it but it’s all cool cause you only learn from your mistakes.