PCG, don’t let people put you down. You are a doctor! A highly accomplished individual who is still fairly young at 30. Yes, you want to get married, what’s wrong with that! Your mistake is that you wait for people to come to you instead of vice versa. There are amazing men on rishta sites too. Try Quran.com as well. And look through the male profiles and contact the ones you like, You shall be amazed by the response, IA.
I know multiple women who found rishtas on matrimonial sites, all at least 29 or above and all managed to marry accomplished and good individuals.
Of course it’s not.. we’re just twenty years behind others
Finding a partner online is too ‘western’ and ‘modern’ so we’re biased against it.. it’s going to take another generation for it to become acceptable amongst us desis.. a bit like marrying outside the family or race.. There’s no real reason not to try it apart from it not belonging to our traditions..
Dating websites don’t make sense Islamically either. Haha, once I talked to a reasonable candidate, fairly religious but like yuppy American religious. So I asked him if he ever had gf’s, etc, and he says no, I feel too shy and religiously I shouldn’t be chatting with girls, etc.
So then I said well you’re online and right now you’re staring at my thopra on match dot com, and I don’t even have a hijab on!
Like eastern said a lot of westerners meet online on dating sites (or Facebook or Twitter)..
I don’t think people rely on them.. it’s just seen an additional option rather than being the last resort as many people in our culture might see it.. I’d have personally preferred online to a rishta aunty because I like being in control and there’s a much larger pool of people to choose from if you and your family are open to that.. Of course there are downsides to it as well though..
