Re: Boys profiles : rishta hunt
Who said non-muslims are bad? Nobody is saying that.
If you marry a non-Muslim, for example, and she converts to Islam and genuinely wants to follow the religion, that’s a great. It makes things easier for you if Islam is very important to you and you want your kids to follow it.
If she doesn’t want to convert and strongly practices her religion, then there may be some similarity in moral values and other aspects of belief. But there is also a major clash in core beliefs (trinity vs belief in one-God). So, what should the kids believe then? Will they be given choice? Or will a particular belief be reinforced? This depends on how you religious you are. If religion is very important to you…this conflict will pose as a challenge.
If she does not practice her religion and is not into any religion, then it may not matter to the guy if he is lax as well. If religion is a top priority for him, then he’ll spend his time trying to bring her to Islam first and then to make sure his kids follow it too; that’s not an easy thing to. It can be emotionally overwhelming.
The second and third scenarios are not impossible, but it may be more challenging to merge. I have a friend who is Christian and married a Muslim. She didn’t convert. They have two kids and a point came where the kids had to decide what religion to follow. She left it up to God. They picked Islam. Now she approached it in a laid-back way, for other couples it may not be that easy.
A marriage between two Muslims is challenging enough…A marriage between two people of different religions where both partners are religious or one of them is…may be more challenging. Not necessarily impossible, but challenging and one has to decide if they can handle it and what their priorities and there is nothing at all offensive in saying this because this is something everyone regardless of religion or culture has to think about before making the life-altering decision of marriage. Koi araam se is hawaly se soch hi nahi raha…rather some folks are interpreting in a very jazbaati way and in haste.