Aaze
July 10, 2014, 7:40am
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Re: Boys profiles : rishta hunt
So, I guess it’s just me that doesn’t think PCG is entirely wrong. Too much political correctness here sometimes. Sometimes I think we should stop that.
If the wife converts to Islam and genuinely wants to follow the religion, great! If she doesn’t convert and if she has no interest in Islam/religion and the guy knows that despite their compatibility in terms of personality, her lifestyle is not the same as his and not one that he wants his future kids to follow…then he knows he’s taking a risk. Although it’s permissible to marry a Christian woman (for example), even if she’s a practicing one…he must know that her core beliefs (trinity) come into conflict with Islam’s belief in only one God. He has to factor in all these risks/potential consequences if religion is his first priority. He may still care about his religion…but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to question if religion is taking a backseat to his feelings for the woman. So, PCG has not said an abominable thing. Yes, we ALL know of exceptions of Muslim parents with messed up kids and non-Muslim parents whose kids find Islam. That’s fine. But when a person has to make a life-decision, they have to see if they want to follow a route that maximizes their chances or take the path that may be more challenging and hope to become one of the positive exceptions. What PCG has said is not such an incredulous thing. **It’s a reasonable question to ponder upon. **Seriously. Yes, seriously, Aaze. What you see as a gross and perhaps repugnant generalization…I see it as a serious matter to reflect over.
Actually let’s put the issue of marriage aside. Nobody likes to be accused of not caring about their religion. But there have been many times where many of us have skipped a prayer or few to watch a movie or hang out with friends or catch some more zzzz’s, etc etc. Did the namaz not take a backseat to the worldly pleasures? It sure did. You may care about religion on the whole and believe in it with all your heart, but at that moment Allah’s command and a fard obligation wasn’t your top-most priority…it took a backseat to something else. So, why not be honest and apply the same principle to marriage…which may be a bigger deal than salah…because it will impact your aanay waali nasal.
Please RV save the long lecture and do ponder on what PCG said a little more. It doesn’t matter how you twist it around, we all know what PCG said. She didn’t represent “pondering” on an angle or questioning a matter for that fact. She represented gross generalizations and she continue to see them as facts. That’s where the problem lies.
To be quite frank, I don’t even understand why PCG should be pondering on who desi guys marries or how religious they are, what does that have to do with anything at all? Who is forcing PCG to even consider these nalaiq non religious guys anyway? From what I know PCG herself is not exactly dhoodh ki dhuli huye but let’s not go there.
Please stop playing the victim card already, even in Ramzaan. Nobody cares who you think is gale parho’ing who.
