Boys profiles : rishta hunt

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Re: Boys profiles : rishta hunt

@PyariCgudia

If religion means something to someone, they will tend to marry within their own religion. Exceptions exist, but that’s the reality around us.

Because muslim guys are increasingly disconnected from their religion and faith - common to see guys being raised without being taught Urdu, and with different rules like different curfews, able to hang out with “friends” etc, they’re dating. Believe it or not, most desi guys out there are dating. And while our girls are sitting at home being overprotected, those boys are dating, and eventually, many of them marry those girls.

And then we wonder why a rishta aunty has 20 girls to 1 guy in her portfolio.

why do you have issues with muslim guys dating to either muslim girls or non-muslim girls?
to your question of why rishta aunties have a ratio of 20:1, there are few logical reasons to it:

1. it is not traditionally accepted for girls families to start a rishta process themselves if they spot some good guy. whereas it is a norm for guys families to initiate a rishta process if they like some girl. so in an arrange marriage route, perhaps a guy’s parents or guy himself sees some girl in a function, neighborhood, family etc. they can simply go to the girl’s family and talk about rishta. whereas if a girls familiy like someone they can’t make the first move and have to wait for guy family to approach which they might or might not.
   since the guys families can approach the girls families themselves, lot of them don’t really need to register with match makers.

2. Some parents don’t trust the rishta aunties and prefer to keep on waiting for some rishta to come by itself without registering with match makers, and if this process takes long and girls enters in her late 20’s and early 30’s and then the parents seek the help of match makers, the match makers often do not have the right match because the way our society is, most people want girls in their early 20’s rather than 30’s.

3. most guys the eligible ones and those who fits the general criteria of good family, education, career, tend to get engaged by the time they are 25, 26 years of age. and often they select girls who are 4-5 years younger than them. so if you are well into your 30’s, the guys your age group and those who fits your criteria are already taken.

4. Either the guy chose the girl himself or the families find girls within families and within their social circles, so the ratio of guys family going to rishta aunties is lower than girls families going to them.

5. the families going to rishta aunties for the guy rishtas are often the ones who couldn’t first find anyone within their own circles because of their too picky nature. so the rishta aunties don’t share the profiles of such guys with the girls families who are average by the guys standards/requirement.

all of these reasons contribute to the lesser number of guys with rishta aunties.