Boys Getting Married Young

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Re: Boys Getting Married Young

@PyariCgudia

I think that’s because this same religious community NEVER addresses women that are older and working.

Repeatedly they say a woman should not be working. (not Nouman Ali Khan, maybe, but definitely others). They talk about the benefit of marrying young virgins, citing hadith like the one that TLK bhai posted in another thread. They ignore that the Prophet (SAW) married mostly women > 30 yrs of age. They ignore that he married his boss - Khadija (R), one of the few female businesswomen in town, or that he even worked for a female. They talk about a woman’s place being at home, and almost never have I heard a khutba where they address and congralate families who put in time and saccrifice into their daughters education. Although I believe there may be a hadith on it, because one day, my dad came home from jumma super excited that the Imam talked about the benefits of educating your daughters and giving them knowledge.

I wonder if I can get Nouman Ali Khan’s email address, I’d like to remind him that those of us women who are older, educated, and doing good work for society through various professions is both necessary and a huge help to the community.

Where do they go when they need legal representation and they get a female lawyer volunteering with CAIR? Then working women aren’t bad? Older women aren’t bad then? Or single female docs who are now in their 30’s and 40’s practicing and single? Or female teachers - they are doing wrong? They should be sitting at home? Not married by 30 and teaching, hai Allah? When I was teaching, I was in my mid-20’s and I had a fellow Pakistani teacher with me who was a few years older - we were wrong for not getting married early and being single and working?

So these guys never praise older women who are working and never suggest to their men that hey, we have many single women who are waiting for rishtas , why not approach them? Nope, they talk about young virgins in sermons, even in the USA.

Ok sorry for derailing. Thanks for keeping me on the right path. I don’t agree with them but i’m not extremely religious.

Why don’t you listen to other sermons by some of the progressive imams rather than ones who are prone to flip flop and change views based on audience. They know what the audience wants to hear and what will increase listeners and what is palatable. If the audience was progressive they would sing to another tune. So listening to a more progressive perspective is handy. Not everyone has pure intentions when it comes to imams. Anyone who follows the example of the Prophet (SAW) will know how progressive He was. progressive in thoughts, behaviour and action when it came to marriage, women working and what not. I totally agree women should work after marriage. Husband and in laws should support this decision and in turn it will benefit the household.

You might and others here find this useful reading. http://muslimahwalkingaround.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/recovering-the-progressive-spirit-of-islam-e-cervantes.pdf

As for Nouman’s details. They are apparently on his Bayyinah website. Also has his number.
Scrolling through this website i came across his email.
Surah Al-Fatiha - Nouman Ali Khan | MuslimMatters.orgMuslimMatters.org
[EMAIL=“[email protected]”][email protected]

although i couldnt really find it on the site.

http://bayyinah.com/about/contact-us/