Re: Boys Getting Married Young
I think that’s because this same religious community NEVER addresses women that are older and working.
Repeatedly they say a woman should not be working. (not Nouman Ali Khan, maybe, but definitely others). They talk about the benefit of marrying young virgins, citing hadith like the one that TLK bhai posted in another thread. They ignore that the Prophet (SAW) married mostly women > 30 yrs of age. They ignore that he married his boss - Khadija (R), one of the few female businesswomen in town, or that he even worked for a female. They talk about a woman’s place being at home, and almost never have I heard a khutba where they address and congralate families who put in time and saccrifice into their daughters education. Although I believe there may be a hadith on it, because one day, my dad came home from jumma super excited that the Imam talked about the benefits of educating your daughters and giving them knowledge.
I wonder if I can get Nouman Ali Khan’s email address, I’d like to remind him that those of us women who are older, educated, and doing good work for society through various professions is both necessary and a huge help to the community.
Where do they go when they need legal representation and they get a female lawyer volunteering with CAIR? Then working women aren’t bad? Older women aren’t bad then? Or single female docs who are now in their 30’s and 40’s practicing and single? Or female teachers - they are doing wrong? They should be sitting at home? Not married by 30 and teaching, hai Allah? When I was teaching, I was in my mid-20’s and I had a fellow Pakistani teacher with me who was a few years older - we were wrong for not getting married early and being single and working?
So these guys never praise older women who are working and never suggest to their men that hey, we have many single women who are waiting for rishtas , why not approach them? Nope, they talk about young virgins in sermons, even in the USA.