..as in guy friends…a little sensitive, the ones who care about us, the ones who are always there for us, the ones who we run to in times of need, the ones we seek advice from on everything, the ones who lend us a shoulder to cry on, the ones who go out of their way to help us, the ones we can always rely on…why don;t we consider them as anything but friends?
Aren’t these the exact qualities we look for in our future spouses? Someone we can open up to, someone who makes us feel good about ourselves, someone who likes us for who we are, someone you can be yourself with. Why do we go running around looking for jerks hoping they possess these quailites or in hopes of instilling these qualities in them and wasting time when we have others who already possess them right under our noses? And when these jerks slight us we go sobbing back to our friends again! Is it because you feel there is no chemistry with these friends? Well given the opportunity I;m sure these friends could create some chemistry too. Not just that they could be romantic too. They probably dare not say anything for fear of losing a friend.
It’s probably true for guys and their girlfriends too. Is it that we get too comfortable with our girl/boyfriends that pursuing a marital realtionship doesn’t remain an option any longer? Isn’t being comfortable a necessary ingredient to make a relation work? Don’t we all want to be comfortbale with our spouses where we don’t have to put up a pretense or be somethng we are not?
Look around you girls and guys…you are more than likely to find your ideal partner in the guise of your girl or boyfriend.
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..as in guy friends...a little sensitive, the ones who care about us, the ones who are always there for us, the ones who we run to in times of need, the ones we seek advice from on everything, the ones who lend us a shoulder to cry on, the ones who go out of their way to help us, the ones we can always rely on...why don;t we consider them as anything but friends?
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They are called Gay/Queer/Faggots. There are plenty of them around. You just have to look harder (wrong word) intensley.
Hint Hint: Ro**n....there is one for you. :)
I think if you are serious about certain someone, you gotta avoid "friends first route". Once you do become friends its harder to express your intentions.
Mehnaz does that mean there cannot be any attraction between the two? Ever? In most cases one of the two doesn't allow any sparks to arise otherwise attraction, chemistry all that can come about.
Nah, I think there can definitely be an attraction between the two, or perhaps one person liking other (meaning a one-sided attraction). I think in a lot of cases, one of the two is too afraid of ruining the friendship which is why any attraction/sparks that are occuring are usually quelled before it gets out of control.
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I think in a lot of cases, one of the two is too afraid of ruining the friendship which is why any attraction/sparks that are occuring are usually quelled before it gets out of control.
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I think in a lot of cases, one of the two is too afraid of ruining the friendship which is why any attraction/sparks that are occuring are usually quelled before it gets out of control.
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That totally sucks IMO. But isn't always the case.
I am still friends with this one guy who confessed having feelings some 5 years ago. Another one was too heart broken to carry on. I think he started hating me.
true :k: you shouldve realised that FF