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I never had a bf or gf
I love myself a lot and cannot stand extra attention seekers!!!
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i hate gf/bf culture 
this relationship is all based on infatuation
NO true love!!!
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Funny thing is to see some of the desi chicks run after guys in University - they totally play the gora-wannabe part....talk like a gori, dress like a gori...and put out like a gori too.
For them its more like a thing where they think by going out and getting laid - they are "cool" and "fit in".
Culture goes out the window...at this point all they think about is oh so everyone is doing it...why not me.
Back at York....90% of the desi chicks were no virgins after first year....they sure liked to bounce.
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Funny thing is to see some of the desi chicks run after guys in University - they totally play the gora-wannabe part....talk like a gori, dress like a gori...and put out like a gori too.
For them its more like a thing where they think by going out and getting laid - they are "cool" and "fit in".
Culture goes out the window...at this point all they think about is oh so everyone is doing it...why not me.
Back at York....90% of the desi chicks were no virgins after first year....they sure liked to bounce.
Desi guys aren't virgins either. why be so sexist and expect only a girl to remain "chaste"?
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to show off?
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Saying that girls who don't date or live a "shareef" life are repressed is just as stupid as saying girls who date are sluts.
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i didnt date for just sex but being in a relationship just feels so good.having someone take you out to dinners, shopping, talk on the phone for hours and not being lonely. im the kind of person who really depends on emotional support, i guess others would view dating mainly for sex, i dont.
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hmm so if its companionship and emotional support one is after, why 'date'? you can easily find all that in a healthy platonic relationship/friendship and dating is anything but platonic by definition. girls seem to confused, they want their cake and eat it too without the subsequent consequences to deal with.
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hmm so if its companionship and emotional support one is after, why 'date'? you can easily find all that in a healthy platonic relationship/friendship and dating is anything but platonic by definition. girls seem to confused, they want their cake and eat it too without the subsequent consequences to deal with.
I didn't say sex is not part of the deal at all. it defintly is but its not the only thing. Just like marriage is not just about sex, is it?
what consequences are you talking about?
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Desi guys aren't virgins either. why be so sexist and expect only a girl to remain "chaste"?
Not saying if this is right or wrong but look at it this way....if a girl has a rep where its clear she's had boyfriends and most likely slept with them as well, she's less likely to find a guy who will marry her...because even the same guys who actually had sex with her, would rather go look for someone else.
On the other hand, when it comes to the same guys....no one cares whether they had sex or not prior to marraige, all people care about is whether they come from a good family, have a good decent job and financial stability.
Thats just the way life goes....you can argue whether its right or wrong but at the end of the day, girls should think twice about getting into relationships before marraige....more often than not, all they're gonna do is get themselves into a hole.
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Not saying if this is right or wrong but look at it this way....if a girl has a rep where its clear she's had boyfriends and most likely slept with them as well, she's less likely to find a guy who will marry her...because even the same guys who actually had sex with her, would rather go look for someone else.
Not all men are so judgmental, only the very desi ones are. I have seen plenty of liberal desi men who have no problem in marrying a girl despite her sexual past.
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On the other hand, when it comes to the same guys....no one cares whether they had sex or not prior to marraige, all people care about is whether they come from a good family, have a good decent job and financial stability.
Thats just the way life goes....you can argue whether its right or wrong but at the end of the day, girls should think twice about getting into relationships before marraige....more often than not, all they're gonna do is get themselves into a hole.
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It depends on what kind of social circle you are in. I have seen plenty of desi girls growing up in US who have been with many guys and had absolutely no problem getting married.
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Grapes are sour 
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Are u serious?? Obviously there are some cases (however few) out there where there is love..
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I knew of this girl who was in my college who actually had 4 different boyfriends in a year.....she said that "next year her parents will get her married anyway and not let her study....so whats the point of studying...might as well mess around". Others ive seen had boyfriends but still went back to pakistan to get married to their cousins...and then came back to UK and continued going out with their boyfriends. I think its lack of morals from parents.
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^They do... but it's wayyyyyy more common with the boys.. what's worse is that with the lads even if they mess around after marriage with their old white girlfriends their parents will usually look the other way and say something ridiculous like 'he will settle down eventually...'
(Also, a lot of those girls who are shipped off to Pak to marry their cousins don't want to do it anyway but can't really say 'no' - obviously most of them would prefer to marry from the UK. Most of the boys are at least given a bit more freedom in rejecting the person and are happy to bag themselves a 'back home' virgin who their parents have told them will cook, clean and 'obey' them. The pressurised and forced marriages are disgusting)
There was a case a while back where a UK Pak couple were murdered in Pakistan because the grown up married son had gotten a white girlfriend pregnant and carried on seeing her whilst being married to his cousin from 'back home.' Doesn't seem like his family tried to put a stop to it, rather just turned the other way - like a lot of desi families do in this country..
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Not saying if this is right or wrong but look at it this way....if a girl has a rep where its clear she's had boyfriends and most likely slept with them as well, she's less likely to find a guy who will marry her...because even the same guys who actually had sex with her, would rather go look for someone else.
On the other hand, when it comes to the same guys....no one cares whether they had sex or not prior to marraige, all people care about is whether they come from a good family, have a good decent job and financial stability.
Thats just the way life goes....you can argue whether its right or wrong but at the end of the day, girls should think twice about getting into relationships before marraige....more often than not, all they're gonna do is get themselves into a hole.
Using that logic it's ok for me to be racist towards black people cos it's commonly done and not considered a big deal in desi society.. If people acted like sheep and kept saying 'well that's how it is in our culture' nothing would ever change..
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Again, shareef girls don't have boyfriends, whether you like it not
why would you want a used girl, when you can get a untouched one? That's why often guys don't marry their girlfriends, it's not because of their parents it's because they don't want to.
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^because some people don't judge the value of another human being based upon sexual experience (be it halal or haram).
Your view of women is disgusting.
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Again, shareef girls don't have boyfriends, whether you like it not why would you want a used girl, when you can get a untouched one? That's why often guys don't marry their girlfriends, it's not because of their parents it's because they don't want to.
I dont know what world you're talking about but even in pakistan, love-marriages are so freakin common! i have plenty of cousins and family friends who got married to their gf's..
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girls always bring up, oh only desi men want virgins (or think this way) N whites don't. There is a reason why White men don't care (not as much as desi) b/c they know in reality it's pretty hard to get one(and majority of them are only after girls to fool around with to begin with). The day majority of desi girls start giving up as easily as white girls do, i am pretty sure desi men would stop going after virgins (as much as they do now).
for this one i agree with EDAL, thought of your wife with another man (or men) prior to you is very disturbing. i know how guys think and talk about girls they have slept with, it's not fun to be their new man.
little while ago, one of my friends (A) was chilling with one of his friends(B). During their conversation, he bought up how X is dating Y, his friend responded (B) oh i dated her and if i was him, i wouldn't kiss her after all the things she has done to me (sexually). Imagine being her new man.
I don't know why women get pissed off, when men desire virgins ( N i don't mean pornstar Aurora Jolie kind of virgin :) )
you want girl that no one else can claim that they had. You don't want a girl, any tom dick and harry could have, there is nothing special about you. who wants to be with a sloppy second?? Being first is always better!
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Apply that rule to yourself too, hur koi Muslim bana phir tha hai, atleast apply our religion.