^ I know thats all i want.. To make it final thats all. Not get married tomorrow For heavens sake! I jus want our families to start talking etc. Is that too much to ask for??
You are definitely not asking for too much. I am a bit skeptical about your situation just based on the fact that he is so hesitant for your families to get to know each other DESPITE being family friends??? It makes no sense. When a guy is serious about you and marriage, he will take initiative. He will understand it is a matter of respecting you by giving a proper name to the relationship you guys share.
When I met my bf, I told him I was only starting this relationship with very serious intentions. He said the same thing.....but he backed it up by getting his parents involved. We live in different states and our parents did not even know that the other set existed. But still, he had his mom calling mine and they became fast friends. Our parents made the effort to make the trips to visit each others homes and get to know each other. He asked his parents to ask mine for my hand marriage and humaari baat paki hogaye. Everyone understood I was still in school and had to complete my studies before a more serious step was taken.
But atleast a step was taken. Our relationship was given a name...our parents could say that humaari baat paki hogaye. Our families have developed a relationship. I spend a lot of time with his mother and sister openly. But none of this could have happened without my guy taking the initiative.
And the thing is - I did not even have to ask him to do it. He did it on his own. It showed how serious he was about me and our relationship.
I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship and try to get out of it. You are super young...try to find a guy that is more serious about you.