True !
What has been assumed in this thread that if you ask your parents or parents in law , they will not refuse you and hence will be forced to take care of your kids or grand parents by default enjoy spending time with their grand children and they don’t see them as burden.
I know a woman who was requested by her own daughter to take care of her 1 year old daughter but she refused saying that she has raised kids of her own and she does not want any now. The girl’s husband was going through huge financial problems and she just wanted to do part time work by teaching at school.
On the other hand there are grand parents who just love to take care of their grand children. Ever since my daughter has come I sometime feels that all that may parents can see is their grand daughter , she is the top most priority in their lives now.
Different people different situation ! there can not be a single formula that fits all.