both parents work, kids with inlaws?

[Reha]

@pkgrl000

sooo…its OK to use the parents’ availability to your advantage for as long as you need it (saving up on rent, electricity, gas, cable tv, etc) but somehow its not OK if a working mother uses a grand parents’ availability to save on babysitters?

:k:

Im sure this will be countered with excuses like “we were paying our way” or something else…

@nadz123

:] ( oh look sahar..another smily…can you please tell me what i mean here)

im not stressing aminas…how can i stress over stuff like this, i have worse arugments with people and then my mum rushes to check my blood pressure, and its normal…and shes hiraannnnn,people assume i must be red faced and raging and about to keel over…:]

So you admit this sort of thing is pretty normal for you?

@nadz123

sara516-yes its common in our culture for mothers of the girl to come and stay with her when she has a baby for a while, yes it is, and thats nice and all. however its not as nice when its expected afterwards that nanni/daddi will take care while we are off. i found it odd when people expect me to give my kids to my mum and run back to work…why? if i wanted to work and pay my mortgage and not live on the breadline, then surely i would have STAYED AT WORK AND NOT BECOME PREGNANT in the first place…the first few years of a childs upbringing is imp, and i dont ever want my kids to say oh you werent there for me…its heartbraking for ME, when i see the girl i know, who gives her kids to her mum 5 days week when shes working, her own kid cries when her own mum picks her up, why?because she prefers to stay with nanni now.

Anyone here who has given their kids to daytime care with their parents can i ask you one thing, did you ask your parents beforehand if this was ok with them? and anyway, im sure they would say yes, im sure thats because they wont have the heart to say no.

Hmmm…so we’ve got a couple with a new born baby. Hubby works, pays the household expense for his parents because they are his responsibility now. Wife is working to take care of her own parents because she has no brothers and her parents are elderly now. She has a new born that stays with her parents during the day…she is a selfish cow now? WOW.

It just seems like your answers are so immature…my heart breaks when I read your responses because none of them have any rhyme or reason to them…and the worst part is…you dont even know it.