Reha
June 30, 2010, 5:36pm
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Listen to me, i’ve been through a lot, i’ve been through a situation where i wasn’t getting the luxeries and comforts of life and i was in need of money and a job but i didn’t give up, i learnt to live with few pounds or no pounds but couldn’t separate myself from my kids for few hours…because it’s all about the priority you give to money or to your kids. got it?
So, you’re saying women who go out and work are not giving priority to their families? That sounds so ridiculous I dont even want to address it.
This is what I mean…tunnel vision and a one track mind that believes ITS OWN path is THE ONLY path.
Sorry, try again.
IMHO it differs from individual to individual, some poeple go a great job with their kids being at home, some people mess it up even while being at home, some raise awesome kids while working, some leave it up to the nannies and grandparents and have zero involvement… you can’t just generalize and make a sweeping statement about all working women or Stay at home moms… like I said earlier, do not pass judgement…
I’ve seen people saying I will NEVER EVER do that and Allah miyaan shows them how they should not be proud and puts them in a situation where they end up doing exactly what they said they would never do (Khudanakhuwasta). So its never good to pass judgement about others and be all full of yourself.
P.S. Nadz… CM’s comment was obviously a sarcastic ha-ha one while yours wasn’t… it was pretty offensive, plus who takes CM seriously, he is always trolling… while you are always so serious about your posts.
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okay here we go, time to tell my whole life story.
alhumduliah he has a job now, a better one. we didnt sit around for months milking the benefits system and being freeloaders and assuming our parents would look after us, when i concieved, he was working then as welll, now huis contract finishing after, wasnt something we knew ok?
secondly yes we are, and it was temp accomodation because we are finding ahouse in the area, whcih we will move into in a month or two..ok so now you know, are you comparing..?
and why would my dad buy diapers or my mum do the shopping, thats disgraceful, even if i was on my last pennies i would never do that, even for the few weeks my husband never had a job, we paid our way, i hated the fact my mother even bought stuff for us, because i did feel like we were freeloading..and hey im talking about food…nothing major here.
i would want my parents to retire from everything,all the hard work they ahve done for us, living with them and helping them out as well, for a few months is whole different ball game to me giving them my kid when she/he born and waddling off to work, for the next 5 years…and i mean giving them to her and treating it like its a job for them…5 days week, 9 hours aday…we women, always say how motherhood is never appreciated, how men think we sit all day long eating chips and watchin star plus…how we get offended, well looking after kids we say, is hard, so whys that fair on our p[arents to look after not just their own kids, but their kids kids…
Ive no idea what kind of people you are talking about. Ive not run into a single woman who has taken advantage of her parents or inlaws. In fact, Ive noticed working women are even more conscious of their off-time being spent with their kids because they’re at work during the day. Why is this such a problem for people?
If a woman works, she is a bad mother. If she doesnt work, she is a SAHM who is a brainless twit.
Do your thing and leave the judging for the only person who is allowed to judge…definitely NOT you.