Frankly I find your comments about grandparents helping out just as rude and selfish.
Usually when a child is just born, most parents, at least mothers, come stay with the new parents for a few weeks to help them out..it is so common in our culture and probably others as well…no its not being held hostage or anything…
You are making it sound as if the parents are braindead who have no opinions and thoughts of their own. Ever thought about how maybe they WANT to take care of their grandchildren?
First there was bashing working mothers for leaving them with daycares/babysitters, now they’re being bashed for leaving them with grandparents… Wonderful people.