Body, Figure, Shape n Size...

Lifestyle Relationships
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Why are some people so obsessed with this???

I’m not talking about celebrities for whom its necessary to stay in shape, I’m not talking about individuals who like to live a healthy lifestyle and stay fit..

I’m talking about people who love to talk about other people’s bodies!! We know a paki couple here, the man is unparh jaahil show-off, 35 yr old, very thin, and thinks he is Mr. Ireland. The girl (his cousin) is 25 yrs old, very very slim, a bit more educated than him, but still an immature mun phat woman, and thinks she is Ms. Pakistan.

Now.. their entire family is very slim, its just in their genes, they have a very fast metabolism or whatever… the girl didn’t even put any weight on during pregnancy … so just because they think they have model-like figures, they just can’t stop talking about other people’s bodies!!

she looks fat, he has put on weight, she has a double chin, she looks like his mother, he looks heavy, kitna mota hai, tum moti ho rahi ho, ye khaya karo weight lose hota hai, pehle se buhat different lag rahi thi she is gone heavier, bla bla bla… i find it disgusting!!! This and fashion… thats all they talk about.. this dude doesn’t even have a job! Bekaar dimaagh!

Sorry that I sound so hateful but they annoy me sooo much! Every time they come to our house, I just can’t sit with them… they just gossip n gossip n gossip about other people, especially their bodies!! I once went to someone’s house with them… the woman of the house was pregnant and had obviously put on weight… this mun phat girl just didn’t stop nagging her! She was like “Baby k paida ho jaane k baad pata chale ga k XYZ moti ho gayi hai haha.” I felt so angry and so embarrassed for the poor woman…

Then we had a daawat on eid, and there were other families invited… the moment everyone left, these two jaahils started talking about how they looked and what they said and their english and style n crap like that… one woman was in perfect shape so they instead started talking about the spots on her face! I just went up to my room! I don’t know how mom listens to them!!! She doesn’t wanna be rude so she just listens to them and says hmm hmm all the time… but sorry I can’t!

I swear the next time they gossip about people like that, I’m gonna lose it!!

How do you think these kinda people should be treated? I can’t respect them, sorry! They need to treat others with respect first!

People should look at someone’s seerat first, not soorat! arrghh..

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How about thinking hard and coming up with a hard hitting weakness of theirs and then casually bringing it up mentioning it as "someone" else's weakness.... :)

And yeah, I had a senior in my university. He was always talking about girl's bodies... like wah kitni smart hai etc.... I think its alright to appraise someone once in a blue moon like this, but personally I think that people who constantly talking about stuff like this are mentally sick and have some psychopathic insecurity.

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^Their biggest weakness as far as I can see is unemployment due to lack of education. And he keeps on nagging me for studying too hard and having no life! He is a very cunning person!

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how did they get to ireland if they are unemployed?

my bhabhi is like this and we do not get along. AT ALL. And I agree, people who talk about nothing but image and body size have a real mental health issue.

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Hey BarbieCue why is Barbie part of your nick ?

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^ because its girly and its the most creative nick i could come up with :phati:

Back to the topic now! :chai:

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He's got many friends and a few family members who came here before him. He didn't even finish school and came over to Ireland.

He did have a few differen jobs that basically anyone can do like work in tesco and clean floors or working in retail stores .... but he got kicked out of his last job (he obviously didn't tell us why) and since then he's been living off government support.... his wife ofcourse came over when he got married...

anyways, glad to know i'm not the only one who gets annoyed at people who care about nothing but the looks and the physical appearance of others...

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I have a bhabhi just like that as well. It used to drive me crazy - if I lost 5 pounds she would comment on it, if gained 5 pounds she would comment on it. I finally realized that she has nothing more substantive to talk about - this was the sum total of her conversation skills. Now I ignore her.

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How do you keep running into them? Are you/your family inviting them or do you just happen to be invited to the same places? You can start by cutting down inviting them or cutting it out completely (if the problem mainly occurs when they come over). Another thing I would try is that if they criticize a person, I would try to mention something good about that person. If they keep it up and if more people come to know, I'd expect to see more people avoiding/excluding them.

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My chachi is like that she just loves to comment on people's weight especially mine and it drives me crazy! We don't see each other too often but when we do, the FIRST thing she says to me is "moti lag rahi ho pehle se.. u've put on weight" [and the funny part is she is not so skinny herself]. I usually just smile and ignore her comments but one of these days i'm gonna say something back to her because it's just plain RUDE and annoying. People need to keep such comments to themselves

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Women generally speaking are obsessed with weight.

No wonder they get foam in their mouth if called a cow.

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Mom already has cut down on meeting them. They're just so manipulative! They obviously talk about us behind our backs just like they talk about every other family behind their backs....

I feel guilty discussing them on this thread.. how come they never feel guilty??

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how come they never feel guilty??
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If they say stuff so openly then don't think they can feel guilt like normal humans.

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lol

Its not just the woman. Thats what annoys me. That man is equally obsessed with how people look.

His wife, as I said, is very skinny, but after she gave birth to a baby, he was like "u need to diet now" .... ????? ... she was so tiny! And before she came over to Ireland, he would advise her over the phone to become maadran! He got her to cut her hair down to shoulder length (she had very pretty long hair before she came to Ireland) ... he got her to wear jeans when she came over... so yeah.. this is the kinda thinking these people have!

No wonder Allah s.w.t. has placed so much emphasis on education. I'm not saying all uneducated people are like that... there's some parhe likhe jaahil too.

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What exactly do they manipulate you (or others) into doing?

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Its not just the woman. Thats what annoys me. That man is equally disgusting and equally obsessed with how people look.
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Maybe the woman has rubbed off onto him :P

Jokes aside (
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His wife, as I said, is very skinny, but after she gave birth to a baby, he was like "u need to diet now"
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) If this is what a man only has to say after his wife has given BIRTH then he has a few screws loose in his head.

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im slim too n all my aunties always says ab to mota hoja ...........but i dont give a damn to their comments they really annoy me sometimes ..........

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im slim too n all my aunties always says ab to mota hoja
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Just smile and say 'aap ki tarah aunty jee'

Shrug.

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into thinking they're your best friends...

PS: This thread wasn't supposed to be about them in particular. I asked a question in general about such people and how it affects your relationship with them.
I don't want to be like them and discuss them behind their backs. If they cross the line, i'll have no problem confronting them then and there.

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In that case, this is the first time I've heard someone discussing others' weight in this manner. I've heard of people commenting on people's other aspects, but weight has never been one of them. Personally I like to stay slim because being fat has its own complications and hindrances. Aside from that, I also want to be attractive for my wife. The only time I've talked to other people about weight was when we both happen to have a bit too much so we make a friendly challenge to see who can get rid of the excess faster.