Thanks Psquared, YourPresident(can you please unqoute my post? thanks), TB 
I just want to clarify that it’s not always 100% woman’s fault, men can also be bad but it’s just that they don’t talk much. You need 2 hands in order to clap!
The Boss,
Good luck! Hopefully you won’t have to go through such a thing, each case is different and I didn’t mean to scare you at all. InshAllah your parents in laws will participate in the wedding and give you all the love that any DIL deserves. Just want to say to you that this is a very cultural thing, your MIL may not be an evil person but she comes from a culture which doesn’t accept a guy and a girl making big decisions w/o consulting mummy and daddy and also back home it’s a common belief that girls who live in the west lack values and just aren’t ‘good enough’. You cant blame them much for it so dont keep a grudge against your inlaws, inshAllah after marriage they’ll see with their eyes how good you are when you maintain a good and loving relationship with them. Ofcourse, you’ll still call your MIL and give her respect because afterall she’s the one who gave birth to the man you love plus she needs you too. 