Birthing Partner

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Who is best person to have in the labour room as your Birthing Partner, husband or mum or mother-in law?

I’ve heard conflicting views and people saying its not a good idea to have your husband go in, but really isn’t that the person who knows you best and should be there for support?

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no one.

and never a MIL.

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my hubby was too scared to acompany me during my c-section n i missed him badly so for section i recommend hubby but for normal birth i have no experince

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Husband :D he should know that giving birth is not an easy job :p

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ya definetly no MIL

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they forget about the severity of it with time…even the women themselves forget about all the pains and stuff within few months. :hehe:

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i had my huby wth me n it was normal delivery n he was v supportive i think just bc of him i was able 2 push my baby out :) i remained in labour room for 24 hrs n he was constantly there 4 me even he stayed at night wth me in hospital i l also b doing the same next time inshahallah :)

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whoever you are MOST comfortable with..my friend had her MIL with her because she was also her khala and was very attached to her since young age.. they have a nice MIL/DIL relationship!!!

My sister had my mom once, khala anotehr time and I guess husband once.. she likes to expriment :D

I am torn between my mom and my husband.. I used to think it will be mom but now that I am pregnant I am more comfortable with my husband especially since he is very patient and composed and my mother gets panicky for lil things like me throwing up!!!

I may not have anyone else in there.. it will depend on my moood for that given moment :D

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I had my husband and mom.....I needed them both and I really thing them being there made the process easier for me. That being said as others have mentioned it really can be anyone you feel comfortable with and someone who is going to support

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A Professional Doctor.

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I think when the time will come for me (inshAllah), it will be my husband as we know, how important the baby will be for us. We want to share that joy of listening him/her cry for the first time together! and since we are abroad with no family around, hes been everyone that i wanted :hehe: Also as he always accompanies me to my docs and fertility docs, u/s, i think i cannot think of anyone else accompanying me (i hope i see the time soon…inshAllah)

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Were you comfortable with ur husband and mom being there at the same time?i dont know but i am not comfortable with the idea f having both inside. But afterall it should be a personal preference :)

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Scared ? I hope he was not the same when baby was conceived :P

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Haha! It’s true. But at least you can remind them of what you had to go through :wink:

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My husband was with me both times and I've got to admit that he was awesome. He stood next to me the entire time and held my hand. He'd encourage me and stroke my head. You should have seen the joy in him when he laid his eyes on his kid each time.

I wouldn't be comfortable with my mom or my MIL or a friend. It's too private a moment, beautiful yes, but too private for anyone other than the docs/nurses [it's their job] or the man who is responsible for this :D and shares the exact same relationship as you do with the child.

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Hubby and mum until it comes time to push, then mum knows she's gotta step out so Hubby and I can have that moment when we first see the Bean iA. Unless I'm a cranky biatch thanks to the pain, in which case mum might make her exit sooner!

We are only allowed two people in l&d and Hubby has strict instructions to keep his mother out! The nurses will also be told. I'm not close to mil at all, so having her near will only stress me out which is a no-no then.

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when my sister was in the hospital, we (me, bhabhis, mom, dad, her hubby and SIL) were all with her in the room up until it was time for her to give birth, in which her hubby stayed with her. my brother who just arrived, asked my mom if he coudl be in the room with her too.

ha ha...my mom was so embarrased, and we were laughing at him for his weird request. lol.

i wouldnt mind if my mom and/or sister , along with the hubby were with me. when its down to the wire, just the hubby.

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hubby

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I didnt think I would be and hadn't planned on my mom being there, but she came and at first I didn't want her there but didn't know how to tell her so I just let her stay and I'm really glad I did. She was really good at respecting that this was a special time for my husband and I and at first just sat in the corner praying,....and then from time to time I would ask for her cause I needed the mommy hug :)

During the pushing part she stayed away from the bed, sat on a chair on the other side of the room and just prayed....even when my son was born she only came to the bed when I asked for her. I think it also helps that my mom and husband have a really good relationship.

I'm really glad she was there....even though my husband was a wonderful support there were times I just wanted my mom......I alsohad a really long labour, later my husband said he really appreciated her being there cause he was able to eat a litte, go to the bathroom, and rest for a bit during the times I wanted her.

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I wanted my husband and he was there.If ammi had been there at the time of birth,I would have been uncomfortable having her there.we are very close but I just did not want her to be there and had no idea how I would tell her this.But it all happened this way that the baby came a day before ammi reached.When ammi came to the hospital the baby was a few hours old.So it all worked out well...:)
Ammi was with me for the next 6 weeks and I cannot explain what a great great help she was.AH for that...!!