is it necessary to gift your spouse something? if they dont, does that mean they dont care? so many
couples i know whose husband especially doesnt give a gift, will wish
her n give a card, but notso much a
gift or will say go get it urself heres
some money…
and the women- hunt down a gift for
thier hubbys 2 months in advance!!!
so how important is giftvgiving?
birthday gifts from spouse?
Respect is way much better than any gift.
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We haven't given each other birthday gifts since we got married. Then again, we don't make a big deal out of birthdays. Several days can go by before we realize that we officially aged another year before it even occurs to us.
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LOL....there are women out there who hunt down a gift for their husband's 2 months in advance for their bdays?! Must be nice to have all that extra time in their hands to spend so much energy on this.
My husband and I have never given each other formal gifts for anything. Whether it's birthday, anniversary or any other special event........we always ask each other what the other person wants and then buy that. Heck last month for my bday, I didn't even really get a "gift" b/c I told him there was nothing I really wanted at that time. We usually end up going for a nice dinner and that's it (neither one of us are the card-giving types).
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As mentioned above by Paheli, my DH and I have also never given each formal gifts to mark an occasion. As our first birthdays together and first anniversary approached, we decided then we would not get into all this gift giving. I am so not a Valentine Day person either. Birthdays, anniversaries, or anything else, it has never bothered me or him. Now that does not mean we never give 'anything' to one another, it depends on what one needs. I am into the needs and not the wants.
For me, the cards and a few letters given to me by my DH over the years esp the one given on our wedding hold much more weight in my heart than any gift that I could possibly receive. DH is very much secure in that, as Alhamdulillah am I. :) BTW..hitting our 25th wedding anniversary very soon..
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Whaaat? We always get each other gifts and cards, hubby also loves buying me flowers on my birthday and for Valentines. I think it's because we've always had a tradition of going out for a small meal and giving gifts. Some of my friends don't celebrate birthdays for religious reasons so won't bother but I guess it depends on the couple and what their history is.
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That's so sweet. Personally I feel that both husband and wife should exchange gifts it enhances what they already have, love and respect for each other.
Who wouldn't like a bunch of lovely flowers or a gift? I know I love it and my hubby loves his gifts too, even though we have much love and mutual respect for each other.
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We always exchange gifts on birthdays and anniversaries, even something on valentines day. It doesnt have to be anything expensive, just a token of affection. I love receiving gifts from him, i just feel it adds a little more spice in lives. Mutual love and respect aside, mind it, gifts are important too!
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Try being nice. I'm sure he will give you a gift then.
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hi,
Gift is not necessary if there exists true love in between but some times it's nice to give gifts on occasions because it shows that he is so important for you.
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We just ask each other what the other person wants/needs. I normally end up buying him shoes or clothes because he never buys that for himself. He used to give me cash mostly but for our 1st anniversary he got me a macbook and for my birthday recently, he bought me an iPhone 5.
It's v important I say, doesn't have to be anything flashy, just a nice gesture. If one party gives a gift, then the other should pay back the same courtesy.
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I love exchanging gifts, on the occasions we don't it feels like something's missing. Even in a "true love" marriage, who doesn't like getting gifts!?! I love knowing he'll wear or use what I get him and also knowing how much he knows me by picking out things I'd like!
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Taking 2 whole months in advance is a lot more to do. Besides, its just the point of buying & then giving the gift in a special way. Its the specialty which is the cherry on top :)
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One of my friends and her husband don't do gifts at all...they go out for dinner and then put the money they'd spend on a gift into a savings account towards a future vacation. I thought that was quite nice.
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I get my wife a holiday, she gets me cufflinks!! haha
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:k: We did something similar a few years back. Initially we planned on doing a weekend getaway for our anniversary. At that time, our small backyard needed to be redone (it was a mess…full of weeds, no paving etc.). We talked and instead of the weekend getaway, we spent the money on re-doing the entire backyard.
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ya we do the same thing... there are only so many purses shoes and jewellary you can buy. once u really get into life with kids... bah... the only ppl u are buying gifts for are the kids.. anniversaries and spousal bdays are spent redoing the home or something more fun.
thats teh case for us and quite a few couple friends of ours.
oh and the purses and jewellary purchasing moves to if i see something i like.. i will buy it slot.. rather than the bday anniversary slot.. it DOESNT die down :D
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I never gifted my huby anything for his bday oanniversary in 4 years of our wedding yeah he do gives me nothing special but it just depends on personality he is like tht n I am not like tht, but yeah I do give him gifts but randomly without any special occassion
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Me and the fiance do bday gifts and cards but not anniversaries yet or Valentines day.
Putting money aside for a vacay sounds like a really good idea.. we may have to try that.