so what would u do if were in a relationship with a guy, and u both really liked eachother, but then u suddenly came to a realization that u should not be dating in the first place (especially for people that are young). it’s not easy to tell him that you’re just suddenly quitting the relationship. and what if u two really consider getting a bit more serious about it, but u go to the guy and tell him that u are longer dating until you reach a certain age…but you’re afraid that if u tell him to wait for u, that he might go out and find some other girl.
so, basically, my question is:
how would you tell your bf /gf that you don’t want to be dating anymore (maybe because you’re simply too young, or u want to get finished with studies first), without making him think that you’re trying to avoid him. (and also that he won’t go get with some other girl while he’s “waiting” for you)?
well if he really loves you in the first place then he should wait and wouldn't go get another girl. but if in that process he does go to another girl then you should know it wasn't meant to be and he wasn't as deeply in love as you were with him. cuz think about it, if you're willing to wait and not go for anyone else then shouldn't he do the same??
^^ yea, but i believe impulse's question is "how would you tell this to the guy that you like, that you want to take things a bit slower for a while"..and do that without the guy thinking you don't like him.
If he's using you for simple emotional gratification, then he won't
But even if he's of high enough character to wait ..... he's going to be sitting around emotionally deprived and if another girl starts giving him attention, temptation will be awfully strong.
See, if a girl just simply told a guy that really liked her that she didn't want to date any more (because maybe she realized that it's haraam, or that she's not ready just yet), then the guy might think that she doesn't even like him back.
So how would a girl tell a guy that she no longer is dating, without sounding like a complete nerd, as if she's overreacting?
tell him what you just said
If he’s taking the relationship seriously then he’ll wait for you, if not then you’ll know your answer. Just be honest and say whatever is on your mind.
Maybe it’s one of those situations when it’s easier said than done…hmmmm
And I think it’s unlikely he would. Sure, he will 100% be commited to it at first, but the longer you leave him hanging in limbo unsure about how long he will have to stay like that, the more likely he will be to find another girl.
what I think is that if he's the right guy...she should be able to tell him everything. and after explaining the everything him, if he agrees to it then all is good.
if he doesnt want to wait then he's not worth it and u will automatically know he's not the one for you.
but u know i think in situations like this its best to take our OWN advise rather than listening to other people. we should do what our heart tells us and see what other people have to say...but they are not necassarily always right.
