Big Brothers Problem

[Mehnaz]

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@Afridi786

preventing them for doing things they might later regret wouldnt you try to protect a younger sibling if they were doing something bad or about to?

Tying this onto the topic at hand, what exactly has Impulse done wrong? Wouldn't the logical thing for the brother to do is not bring his friends home if he wants to protect his sister from them?

[BigMouth]

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She went out the house gate to ask her ‘big brother’ where ‘daddy’ was cz she was looking for daddy. Shouldnt she be stoned to death?

@MehnazQ

Tying this onto the topic at hand, what exactly has Impulse done wrong?

[Iconoclast]

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And if her brother told her not to come outside when other men are around, he should be sent to Guantanamo Bay.

[_pyari_sii_bachi]

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wow the thread's turned into a monster

[Sara516]

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@lost

One thing that I wondered about while I was reading the other posts…so many people saying that the older brother treats her like this b/c he cares about her, b/c he knows how guys think etc. etc. etc.

**Well, her father and other brother are also men and her family.
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**What about her fiance? **** **

I think people meant the thing about brothers just generally speaking.. but in this type of thing, if the father and brother and fiance don’t do the same, then the one son is just being a paindu.. why even befreind those type of guys adn bring em home if they’re bound to lust after ur sister after seeing her? Also, i wonder abt grlz who wear hijab and stuff.. that wudnt seem fair for her if the bro cud bring his friends whenever he wanted, and she wud risk being seen w/o hijab or wud she have to stay in hijab all day long

[Sara516]

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@shweetdreamz

lajawab read posts by impulse…she mentions he was no angel either. that is how i know.
u seriously need to check on all the assumptions u make. its not jizz jazz we are told by the media. the only person jumping in the tread pointing fingers at us saying we are western influenced liberals is u.
i happen to have a brother. he prays five times and he loves me just as any brother would love his sister. he used to have friends that went clubbing and drank and gradually phased them out of his life because he decided this was not the lifestyle for him. but he has never rubbed his ideals on me. now dont u come up with your mullah rant sitting behind your PC telling me that shows he doesnt care about me. nor do i have to give u examples proving he DOES.
and your ideas on media made up of un-moral people just shows what u are influenced by. its useless to argue with u when u place the entire west into one wicked block. u think that it is impossible to be liberal and care about your brother or sister or mother/father at the same time. May God guide YOU. toodles.

Lajjo, why haven’t u moved back to Pak or to KSA yet ?

[Impulse]

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@lost

One thing that I wondered about while I was reading the other posts…so many people saying that the older brother treats her like this b/c he cares about her, b/c he knows how guys think etc. etc. etc.

**Well, her father and other brother are also men and her family. They don’t treat her like this. Does that mean that they don’t care about her or don’t care about her safety? Does her father, being a man himself, does not know how men think? Does her older brother know what’s better for her more than their father do? **

What about her fiance? He’s a man too and if they’re engaged, I think it’s a safe assumption that he cares about her, and wants the best for her since she’ll be his future wife. Are you guys saying that her older brother who himself “hasn’t been an angel in the past” according to Impulse, knows what’s best for her better than her father, 2nd brother, and fiance? That he cares more about her than they do?

Impulse, I might have missed this but you still have not mentioned whether or not you spoke with your father about how your older brother’s behavior bother you, and what you father’s response to that was. Also, where is your mom in all this? Have you spoken to her about it at all?

**You said that your younger’s brother’s wife will be coming from Pakistan soon. Isn’t your older brother married? He’s in his 30’s right? If so, does he treat his wife like this too? If he’s not married, then why not? After all, you’re engaged and your younger brother is already married…so what’s holding up the oldest son?? **

he was married a long time ago, but it didnt work out cuz they didnt really want to get married to each other in the first place…or something like that.

anyway, recently he got married too …and his wife is in pakistan yet…and she covers her face what a match made in heaven

I totally agree with you. my father, my other brother, my fiance, my uncles etc are also men and they understand mens mentality but they have never behaved this way. I did briefly show my dad that i was annoyed…but next time i will say it properly. moms gone out of the country at the moment…and ever since shes gone, he’s been saying this more. mom usually tells him off for bringing some of his paindu friends home cuz she knows wot they’re like…especially late at night.

if my fiance was behaving like this, i would understand…cuz there may be other emotions that come into it…but my older brother, hes got no reason to be jealous etc. as alot of people have said…dont bring home people u dont trust

I love my dad, he’s so open minded and has never made me feel suffocated etc. you know sometimes people ring the door (guys) and my older brother hates it if i open the door…he gets angry! and everytime he leaves the house he says “if anyone rings the door dont open it”…i hate it when he says that cuz im not a kid. i know myself what i should or shouldnt do. on the other hand, dad says “if someone rings the door, just open it”…sometimes dads abit busy at home and he tells me to open the door. two complete opposite tihnkings…who am i supposed to listen to

[Sara516]

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Dad

[Impulse]

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@shweetdreamz

an act of concern would be not be-friending men that are prone to ogle your sister and then bringing them home. an act of concern would be to set an example for your younger siblings by following an ideal. doing what u wanted to do when you were young and then hiding your sister is not an act of concern it is a byproduct of the suspicious nature of seeing the "perverted" side of every situation. it IS about what has influenced u more.

I 100% agree with you :)

[Impulse]

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@Lajawab

You seem to know how he was when he was young...

You are a girl and a liberal minded at that...You can not imagine the concern that a brother has for his sister especially if it's a younger one...I agree, to you it may be stifling, oppressive, repressive, restrictive and all that jizz that we are told through media...

But then, the media is made up of people who lead a lifestyle free from morality, have children out of wedlock which in most cases happen to be unplanned accidents or mistakes...No doubt, for them a caring brother would be oppressive and repressive...

What would they know of caring and protecting the family? They leave their old parents in nursing homes...

I don't follow that ideology...

id appreciate it if he showed concern for other women rather than me and respecting them....sweetdreams and lost are correct.

[Afridi786]

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too bad my older siblings (including most cousins) r not setting a good example for me…

[Impulse]

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he doesnt respect women....and im sure about that looking at his past. i hate it when guys dont respect other women and want respect for their own sisters. its so hypocritical. other women are also someones sisters.

[musk]

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dear just listen to your instinct...if its late at night and some one rings the door bell dont open it...if its during the day and the house is full of ppl , than open it...and if its during the day and no one is home just dont open the door, simple as that...you dont have to be a genius hun.

[Sara516]

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I just don't open teh door.. i'm too lazy to go downstairs.

[system]

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@Impulse

he doesnt respect women…and im sure about that looking at his past. i hate it when guys dont respect other women and want respect for their own sisters. its so hypocritical. other women are also someones sisters.

:k:

[Impulse]

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@musk

dear just listen to your instinct…if its late at night and some one rings the door bell dont open it…if its during the day and house is full of ppl , than open it…and if its during the day and no one is home just dont open the door, simple as that…you dont have to be a genius hun.

it was a rhetorical question :halo:

anyways, i know exactly what to do thats why i dont want HIM to tell me. on the other hand if my father and my future husband want to tell me, id be happy to listen to them and i will obey them

[Sara516]

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@Afridi786

too bad my older siblings (including most cousins) r not setting a good example for me…

And then its all on you to be the kid that ur parents wanted (i.e., perfect)

[saimanyc]

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Impulse, your brother needs to get married, move out of your parents house and leave you alone. If your dad isn't telling you to do these things, why should your brother?

[Impulse]

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@saimanyc

Impulse, your brother needs to get married, move out of your parents house and leave you alone. If your dad isn't telling you to do these things, why should your brother?

he's married....

[saimanyc]

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Oh... How's his wife doing?