Thats exactly my point. WHen we see a white man telling his daughter not to date a black guy, we get so furious and say hes racist doesn't he know what century this is. Yet same thing happens in our own community but fail to see how racist it is. For us it's totaly justified to discourage inter racial marriages inorder to keep our own "culture and values" alive in future generation. Perhaps we think our culture, value and tradition are superior?
If u went onto Stormfront or some other racist website the arguments for only 'marrying within ur own' would be exactly the same that we hear in our communities yet like u pointed out for some reason desis have this mentality that thinking this way is somehow ok..
My Dad used to say to me half-jokingly 'why don't u marry an Asian man, I'll find someone nice for u' and I used to wind him up and answer 'what's the difference between u and the BNP? Oh yeah, nothing :D' I guess I'm lucky tho, he never asked or pressured me to give up my other half, have never had any of the arguments or the tough times some other desi girls and boys have had with their parents :)