Totally agree, in many other cultures parents allowing their kids to only 'marry their own' would be seen as racist but in ours it's seen as 'holding onto our roots' and ppl make a huge deal about how others eat a different style of food (this would be laughable to non-desis), wear a different style of clothing or some other trivial thing..
Thats exactly my point. WHen we see a white man telling his daughter not to date a black guy, we get so furious and say hes racist doesn't he know what century this is. Yet same thing happens in our own community but fail to see how racist it is. For us it's totaly justified to discourage inter racial marriages inorder to keep our own "culture and values" alive in future generation. Perhaps we think our culture, value and tradition are superior?