speaking in urdu to your kids, liking desi movies, wanting desi company … i think everyone has that. there’d be very few, or hardly any who wouldnt want any of these … but then what does this have to do with your partner? in this post of yours, you’re talking about your personal preference … and i dont see how these can be an issue …
i am born/raised pakistani. i have worked my way abroad on my own strength and capability. and i dont like calling myself an fob, i dont even consider it applicable, and i hate the use of such derogatory terms.
i dont know how old you are … but the era of of tanhayiaan etc is the one that i barely touched. another year or two, and i wouldn’t even have known them! i dont even remember ankahi …
besides, i just find these very unpractical reasons to debate against biracialism. how does this make your marriage strong? i am not a drama buff … but if it is really about finding such things that connect you, then there is music for example … singing songs which are very universal and everybody has grown up singing them.
all the assets that connect me to my culture (media, daily life, happenings, whatever) … i feel strongly connected with them because i am an artist, and these things are my driving force. my work revolves around such issues. so i have a whole audience to talk to instead of my husband.
its wonderful how both me and my fiance have a history of different cultures and countries and we can share and discuss the problems and beauties of both, and find the balance. we love talking about these things, and then talking to others about our discoveries.
perhaps for you it is more important to have someone pakistani, because you’ve been disconnected for so long. and dont want your connection to get any weaker. i dont have that problem.
so the point being, my situation is unique to me, and this biracial deal works for me. your situation is unique for you, and for you it doesnt work out.
but this by NO MEANS qualifies your or my situation valid over one another as a passing factor whether biracialism works or not.
thereby, trying to make an effort through this thread, to generate an acceptance of biracial couples … because wake up world! it’s really working for some!