Re: bhabi issue
I have indian and chinese friends and according to them its common to be insulted face on like that from distant family members and inlaws however for arabs from even villages don't tell people comments like your nose is big/ you look fat no matter how secluded they live. Therefore arabs especially women aren't used to being insulted face on; by distant family let alone inlaws therefore may appear to be proud by not accepting the apology; but in fact this is quiet normal to act like that with insults much less that what she recieved because this is a rare occurance and when it does occur it is seen as being very rude. Many times i have heard people divorce when a husband swears at his wife so name calling isn't really tolerated by many arabs.
Yeah sure
Re: bhabi issue
they hurt her bad with their mean comments..so shes got every right to avoid them..minimum she can do is just say salam to them..and thats it! dont have to strike convos with them.
Re: bhabi issue
Issue is 2 years old. I wud let it go or even if keep in heart, only to the point to protect myself but still talk to them.
I honestly sont c a bid deal in wat they said. Mayb i m missing the whole environment, mood, ther relationship n all but still its not that big a deal to linger it and that too that she cant say salam. If she wants to protect herslef she can avoid making convo wid them but still shud acknowlege their presnece n chachi beeing the older one has already apologiZed.
Re: bhabi issue
Op, as it appears that your bhabhi involves you every time your brother asks her to attend any function then it shows that she is not considering this issue between herself and her husband. In this case, you can actually talk to her about this next time she tells you that she doesn't want to go and your brother is making her to go. And also make it clear that you do not intend to interfere but only giving your advice because she is bringing up this issue to you since over 2 years. i think if you maintain a good rapport with her she should not be minding your advice.
Also i feel that your bhabhi is unnecessarily lingering on to this issue for so long. she doesn't want to mingle with them its okay but she can just at least just do her salam.