I don't agree with you RV. They both seem immature. She didn't write what she said to him about Pakistan so how do you know she didn't curse the country or the people there? It's very easy to show someone in a bad light when you only show what they say once they are angry. What she said when he told her to leave it, imo was what started it all. There are ways to get your point across, it's not like they are getting married tomorrow that she had to convince him right then.
They both have problems with decent communication and understanding. Also, as I said previously why should she have the right to make him move anymore than he does?
This line: "If your BF is sooooooooo defensive about Pakistan, then he should have started flirting/having an Internet relationship with a girl who lives in PAK."
Goes just as much for Ishi as it does for her bf. Why did she start a relationship with a guy assuming she would be able to make him move country just because, you know, 'why would anyone want to stay in pakistan?'
Hey Stoppit,
I may have overlooked some details of her post. But I thought she said that she was talking about the "halaat" or conditions in Pakistan. To me, that didn't sound like she was abusing the country and to make threats to end a rishta on that basis alone.........is a bit extreme. Saying something negative about a country.......is not as bad (in my opinion) as being verbally abusive toward a person.
It's possible that her request (perhaps it was more of a persistent demand than a request) to move to England is what vexed him..........but these issues can be worked on in an civil manner without making threats. And I know the girl herself made a threat later on.....but it seems like she was mimicking him. Can't have a relationship where both parties are always going to call it quits when they don't agree on something. If the guy is so defensive about Pakistan and intends on living there..............then he should have thought twice before starting a relationship with a girl who lives abroad. And I know this can go both ways....though I forgot to mention it. The girl/poster should have considered this as well. Because geographical location is not the only issue here......there will naturally be a difference in mentality/culture/attitude/etc as well.
I don't know how things were going in their relationship before it got to this point. Maybe it has been tense for quite some time. From the post, I understand that he made the threat to end things first. And he also wanted to tattle-tale to her mom. Imagine being married to someone......who will want to complain to mommy about her beti every time he doesn't like what she does or says or every time he misunderstands her because of the cultural difference.
They're both immature.......you're right about that Stoppit........(but maybe one more so than the other). Anyhow, I don't they should pursue a marriage because there are several concerns/red flags.