I just had an argument wid my BF over sum serious issue…In my last thread i did mention that em trying to convince him so that we can settle in UK after marriage (Hez in pk at the moment and em in UK)
We were chatting on msn n i woz tawking to him, about how halatz r in pk at the moment n he got angry that i woz saying all sh**** about pk
he said to me k “Me ainda tumharay mon sy pk k bray mai koi ulti baat na suno werna tum sy saray rishtay tor doga”
I said “Mai to sirf sach keh rahi ho mai nay na to ulti bat kahe hy n na he tanna mara hy agar tumhay sach sunna nahe pasand to ainda nahe kaho gi”
then he went offline and i woz waiting for him But he didn’t came back so i left him offlinez n was about to sign out n when he suddenly appeard online n said to me “Tumharay gher walo ny bataya nahi k kis terha baat kerni chahiy
tumhain…yeh terbiyut di hay gher wlao nay?”
N he said this because …in my offlinez i said to him k tum nay meri baat nahe suni apni sunai n chalay gay its not fair khair every dog haza day"
N he got angry on this n said all this sh***** 2me
Mera to sirf yeh matlub tha k tum nay apni sunai mujay n chalay gay meri baat nahe suni but koi baat nahe meri bari b ay ge
Dats all i meant
i tried to explain it to him but he didn’t even listen 2me
I told him k “Ainda mai tumharay mon sy apnay gher walo k baray mai koi baat na suno…aik lafz b nahe”
N he said kaya kerlo ge
I said to him k tum say saray rishtay toor do gi
then he reffered back to that msg i sent him “Every dog haza day” n said k yeh sab kaya hy
i wos lyk kaya hy???
Dun take it ina wrong sense its just a proverb
And then he said very sh**** thing
Mera L… hay Behun Ch**** PROVERB per
N i said U R DISGUSTING n went offline
He rang me n said k i wanna tawk to ur mum …mai nay kaha woh kis liy?
He said woh unhay he batao ga tum sirf un sy baat kerwao
But mai nay us ki baat nahe kerwai because woh bahot ghussay mai tha n agar koi ulti bat ker jata ghussay mai to my mum would never ever give her consent for our rishta (they never tawked to each other b4)
Bearing in mind that he will be approaching my mum ina few days for my rishta …i am very confuesd n feeling really bad about all this…I really duno wat to do…Why did he beheave like that 2me? What should I do guyz?
Awwww..you sound like you're really nice and trusting and this guy sounds like he has some major issues...and an inferiority complex.
My suggestion is to cool it....wait for him to apologize and even if he does, I would hold back on any rishta wala talk until you are sure he has changed for the better...
If he doesent change...then just walk away and Im sure you`ll find someone much better who deserves you....some guys just have major issues and this guy definately seems like one of them.
Dont get sucked in...just walk away from him or if you want to give him another chance providing he apologizes...then back off a bit and take things slow...dont get into a rishta like this.
If things are like this between you guys before rishta asking process, then it will only get worst. So either get used to it, or don’t talk sh*t with each other.
Sometimes slang words are used too often, and does not see the boundry of the relationship which should be respected. Eliminate your use of words that may hurt your partner.
guys in pk are less open to proverbs...they are more of traditioanl sort of guys even if they they do love marriges.
the proverb u use has meaningthat every dog has a day yani aj us ki bary thy kal urs so indirectly it came on him too so u have to be more serious about ur speaking style very few guys remain frinds like after marrige...other turns into hubby and want the ful respect i see it that if i had said sort of stuff to my hubby he would have given the same response as ur BF.
so i got it that y this happened.
my friends thats the reason the proverb u used:(
hellooo what? as far as i can read it is largely your fault too. ok, he should never have sworn etc but good job making him that angry especially when he told you to leave it :k:
you need to learn when to let something go and that there is a language barrier. from the little you have written about what you said, i can tell that you probably did say plenty of s*** stuff about pakistan in a way that would have offended him.
oh well, at least you know he has a temper now.
this ain’t even the issue. he wants to live in Pak, you want to live in the. UK. why should he be convinced anymore than you should to move?
i know from ur other thread tht u met him online n most of ur relationship is online but have u actually spent enough time with this person in real life? cos trust me talking online and knowing someone properly in real life are two different things. if u were my friend id tell u to cool it until u can figure out how this person works mentally in real life...
I think he should dump her and find someone else who is little more sensitive towards Pakistan and its people.. we are only reading her side of the story... plus the last thing a guy ( who is living in Pakistan) wants to hear about how bad situation is over there as if he doesn't know that - I feel sad for such Pakistanis who have to live there, pay through the nose just to make ends meet, then a third person with all the privileges' in life tells them otherwise... I agree he shouldn't have sworn at her but she should have not used such proverbs which aren't even used by British them selves.. was she trying to impress him by her English 101? Well didn't cut it.. suck it up now!
sincere advice is that...Allah (swt) sent you both a sign in the very start of all this that it won't work out...because of the whole not wanting to move thing...and now its just been confrimed further...so just move on...this relationship will prob not work out. You should marry someone that's close by to where you live as u don't want to leave your parents...and he should find someone in Pak! btw was this like your first love or something...cause if it was maybe your blinded by it all....get some sunglasses and move on girl!
sincere advice is that...Allah (swt) sent you both a sign in the very start of all this that it won't work out...because of the whole not wanting to move thing...and now its just been confrimed further...so just move on...this relationship will prob not work out. You should marry someone that's close by to where you live as u don't want to leave your parents...and he should find someone in Pak! btw was this like your first love or something...cause if it was maybe your blinded by it all....get some sunglasses and move on girl!
u n him dunt match hun he is an awrite guy (typical man) but u wont b able to handle him ur to naive for him..u dint handle the situation smartly nor did he ..u both trigger each other..i see no compatibility..sorri hun but listen to ur parents!
then it will only get worst. So either get used to it, or don’t talk sh*t with each other.