I have this question in mind for like for the past four years …
Why do people …even those that are close to you become BEWAFA?
mein aaj tak is ka real answer nahin dhoond sake.. as to why???
What is the main reason for bewafaaei? and what makes a person do this and as a result Hurts people?
Well do shed some light on this issue cos it would help alot…
Thanx 
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i wonder how ppl stay friends for like 10 years
my friendship always end up in 3 years
others find new one and i move on to find new
this how works in lmy life:phati:
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ps :hows u??
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fine thanks…and how’s you?
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bhi … yeh bachiyaan bewafa hoti hain. waisay or koi bewafa nahin nikla abhi tak… wohi dost hai, wohi sub hai 
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Expectation causes such feelings...
Do not expect anything good from anyone and you would not have any Bewafaa in your life.
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boltay hum nahin.. bolta to yeh SAMAAJh hai.. Yeh Dunya Hai... kya sumjhay :p
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am fine thanks .. hows urself … well aap ki philosophy to mujhe pata hai …regarding this topic ..
Lekin what am asking is that … whats the main thing that makes you move on especially if for example the friend has become so close to you and they would do anything for you and they ve done nothing which makes you not be frends anymore … and yet …you become bewafa for no reason and move on .. and the person you leave behind ..destroy their life cos they think they can never be frends with another person cos they ve been betrayed and hurt before …
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oh we r talking abt … wohi gishi pithi larki larka ki ROMANCHUK kahani 
oh khair!
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umm this question what i ve asked is just general …theres no personal story or any larka larki story involved or anyting ..its just a general question as to what ive seen …and experience from other peoples lives …and just makes me think … as to what bewafaaei is and what causes it?
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Men do bewafai because its in their genetic setup. It has been proven scientifically that men have this urge to have multiple partners which comes out sooner or later.
Women do it mostly for their man's shortcomings... which can be one of many.
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^^^^^^ buzzzzzzzzzzzzz now a days many women are baywafaaas...and doing baywaffiiiissss....
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Expectation causes such feelings...
Do not expect anything good from anyone and you would not have any Bewafaa in your life.
i definatley agree...good answer
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It has lot to do with basis of the relationship. If the base is weak than the building will eventually come down. Same goes with any relationship. People spend a lot of time in pleasing themselves. They want someone that can compliment them, which results in lack of understanding. You have to take your time, peal off the mask and get to know the person in reality. Up close and personal.
When anyone meets their significant other, they meet their representative. The one who is all dressed up, make up and without any faults. In reality, everyone has faults. Once you see them you know the person you are dealing with. People in relationships do find out. Some leave others stay.
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Thanks all for your contribution to this thread ........... now i have a few more answers to my question and makes more sence as to why .... people are bewafa.
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well i think k bewafai ki situtations hoti hain....kuch log bewafa nahi hote per unhain halaat ki waja se aisa kerna parta hai...aur kuch log hote hain jo cheat kerte hain laikin unhain bewafa nahi kaha ja sakta kyun k wo kabhi aap k saath sincere hi nahi thay!
Bewafa toh wo hota hai jis ne pehle aap k saath wafa ki ho....aur sachi dosti ya sachi mohabbat kabhi bewafa nahi hoti!
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k337,
seriously, you will know the blessing of a long standing friendship, when you will keep it going on fair and ever deeper terms.
try it.
:>
Best ,
Dushwari
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nice topic.
in friendships with friends, mistrust can be one big reason and also being insensitive, selfish and greedy.
that is why, setting boundaries for friendship is necessary following which both friends feel secure and fairly dealt with by each other.
other relations in the world, each has their own ethics i.e., with grand parent, parents, siblings, friends of parents, extended family, mentors, students, patients, works of people one benefits from, or even in relationship with a stranger, as a stranger.
honest and long term friendship with peers of same gender as your own, can be the best thing ever, even if the friend is from a different field of studies or profession.
in intimate relationship, the first thing ideally is that it must be felt by both or it will grow weak and then both partners must know and practice mutual regard, trust and respect for each other for nothing untoward to happen to the relationship. betrayal, insensitivity, lies, deceit, and non closure can truly leave the relationship dead until it is rekindled again with real and double as much honesty and compassion as would have been necessary the first time for it to remain alive and grow warmly into contentment.
best,
Dushwari