Have you ever heard ‘hum to beti ke ghar ka pani nahin peete’?
I think its common in many South Asian communities? What is the logic behind this in our society where Beti ke sasrali take jahez munh khol ke and beti ke mayke wale don’t give her share in inheritance?
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they believe that they must NOT burden their daughters so they do have to listen to her sasuraal kii tants/ta'ne. desis believe girls are paraayii so they must only give to girls and NOT take from them...boys par unkaa Haq hotaa hai :)
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they believe that they must NOT burden their daughters so they do have to listen to her sasuraal kii tants/ta'ne. desis believe girls are paraayii so they must only give to girls and NOT take from them...boys par unkaa Haq hotaa hai :)
If that was the case, many communities would give proper rights to girls in inheritance. Its something self-ego which make people utter such sentences IMO
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If that was the case, many communities would give proper rights to girls in inheritance. Its something self-ego which make people utter such sentences IMO
NOT everything is right in our culture...Islamically, women get less because men have to provide their families so no burden on girls so less share.
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NOT everything is right in our culture...Islamically, women get less because men have to provide their families so no burden on girls so less share.
But I have seen girls totally denied for their rights in parent's inheritance. On one side people say 'Hum beti /behn ke ghar ka pani bhi nahin peete', on other sides ladies have been heard saying 'Bhaiyon se ja'idaad main hissa lete huwe hum ache nahin lagte'
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just seen it in movies…doesnt happen humari taraf…
yahan betiyan daawat bhi kerti hain 
we had a Girls only party too at my married csn sisters house and we stayed overnight and the guy csns got jealous cuz they didnt get such a party 
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Its not common in all families / communities. We don’t follow this too. After offering Eid prayers, we first go to our Phuppi’s home (her home is near Eid gah) and have sweets, etc every eid.
But again, there are people who avoid this.
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yes suna hai dramon main.
sab bakwas hai
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agree that its all bakwaas, but then why some communities follow it religiously?
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lack of education and sense.
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I think such people also don't allow their daughters/ sisters to do a job by saying 'betiyon ki kamai khane wale ....... hote hain'
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this still exists …even in families where the daughter/sister works , the income is kept for the girls use and not contributing to the household.
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but why do people hesitate using daughter’s income? kia laRkiyan taane deti hain baad main?
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muqa bhai: it does not exist in our family. we do invite them and they also invite us. and jhaiz is not common in our family. we are more focus on the education of girl, as we believe women are integral part in the building of new family and next generation.
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Yes it's only in movies and star plus dramas,I have never heard anything like this,in our village if parents visit beti's sasural they will take gift for her and her in laws,gift could be anything like mangos,any other fruits or cloths.
In Karachi its like on weekend parents invite their daughter and her inlaws for dinner and nxt weekend daughter will invite her maikA for dinner.
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muqa bhai: it does not exist in our family. we do invite them and they also invite us. and jhaiz is not common in our family. we are more focus on the education of girl, as we believe women are integral part in the building of new family and next generation.
In our family we do give jahaiz,as much as anyone can afford,the reason is not that she will hear tanay from sasural but the reason is to make her life easy and comfortable she will have her own things to use and she will feel comfortable to use them.
Just recently 2 of my uncle gave cars to their daughters coz it will be easy for them to go anywhere they want.
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In our family we do give jahaiz,as much as anyone can afford,the reason is not that she will hear tanay from sasural but the reason is to make her life easy and comfortable she will have her own things to use and she will feel comfortable to use them. Just recently 2 of my uncle gave cars to their daughters coz it will be easy for them to go anywhere they want.
Thats another issue kinzz. What about the people who don't give share in inheritance to the daughters / sisters after giving them jahez?
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Thats another issue kinzz. What about the people who don't give share in inheritance to the daughters / sisters after giving them jahez?
That's not in our family, even if daughter is going out side of family parents will visit her if she is out of town they will stay over night.
In my whole life I haven't seen any case where parents won't drink beti ke ghar ka pani or wouldn't stay at her place,
I remember I had a Pathan teacher, even her parents used to come from ( ummm one famous city I forgot the name ) and they used to stay at her place.
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Yes it's only in movies and star plus dramas,I have never heard anything like this,in our village if parents visit beti's sasural they will take gift for her and her in laws,gift could be anything like mangos,any other fruits or cloths. In Karachi its like on weekend parents invite their daughter and her inlaws for dinner and nxt weekend daughter will invite her maikA for dinner.
As pointed out by LP, many educated family still avoid to use income earned by daughters and sisters
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Hmmm parents might avoid taking money from daughter,but daughter can always give gifts to her parents.