Re: best frnds bf tryin b ur bff???
Hey Purple,
^ That's my favorite color by the way. Here's what I think. First of all, keep in mind that there are MANY possibilities regarding this girl's behavior.
1) We can have things in common with MANY people. That doesn't necessarily mean they're being fake. For example, you can find many girls who like the same color as you, same actors and movies as you, same fashion sense as you, same hobbies as you, same goals as you, same habits as you. I know that I've met several girls desi and non-desi who I have many things in common with. Maybe this girl has been lucky enough to run into other girls who have similar tastes as her. It's not uncommon.
*2) * There are different types of personalities. You have extroverted people who are outgoing and social. And you have introverted people who are more shy, calm, and take their time in getting to know others. Perhaps this girl is just a very outgoing social butterfly. Maybe it's in her personality to enjoy meeting new people and becoming friends with them. I've seen people like that who are very social and that's just part of their nature.
3) There is a possibility that deep down this girl feels insecure and wants people to like her. That doesn't necessarily make her a bad person. If you think about it....we all have a desire to be liked by others. And we all...at various points in our life....try to get the approval of others. Maybe what you consider to be her "fakeness" is stemming from insecurity.
Now about the 2nd part of your question:
I'm confused about something. Is your best friend a guy? Maybe your bff has told this girl ALL THESE WONDERFUL things about you. And now this girl is impressed by you and is trying to be your friend. It's possible.
Should you tell her your secrets? Everyone is different. Some people tell everything to their BFF.....and other people prefer to be more careful. There's no right or wrong way. If you feel UNCOMFORTABLE....then talk about this with your BFF. Tell him that you would prefer it if he doesn't tell your secrets to this girl. And if he's a good BFF....he'll respect your wishes. And if this girl is making you feel uneasy....then you can be friendly but don't get too close to her.
**** I feel like your situation is kind of like the movie,** My Best Friend's Wedding*. Your post is a bit confusing and you might want to consider editing so others can understand it better. But I'm beginning to wonder if maybe **one of two things* is happening here:
**1) **Either you have a crush on your BFF and don't like this girl's involvement.
OR
2) This girl has a crush on your BFF and wants to get to know you well since he's pretty close to you.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
hey RV! purples my fav colour tooo..... im absolutely obsessed wid it...
anyway back to the question.. sorry i must ve been vague or nt detailed..... ok so my best friend is a guy... n no i dont ve any jealousy goin on against his girl friend im engaged n totaly in lvoe with my man.. me n my best frnd r jus reli good frind.... hes btr den a girl frnd to me anyday...... so ruling out the me vein a crush on him theory i think ur rite on the second point.. cuz she totaly adores my best frnd n wants to knw his crew...... but i stil ve this nagging feelin that shes sorta of a fake person.... isnt it wrong for ppl to make u like them based on their fake behaviour.... i thought it was... i like genuine ppl...
and to clear up my question , since so amny ppl r confused by it.. i wantd to ask if girls came across other girls who r sort of fake.. u knw the kind who wud do lame ass kissy stuff to just b around u..... i sumtimes wonder if my girl-frnds. arent jus frinds wid me cuz they like to maintain a good frnds circle.... or cuz they genuinely care for eachodr n r fond of eachodr... i seem to come across a lot of grls who jus pretend to b ur frinds jus to chill wid da in crowd..... it bothers me cuz i dun care for such ppl i d rather ve genuine frnds sad part is i dont see mcuh .. or amyb im doubtin my frnds n der intentions a b it too much..???
n the first half of my question was bout my MALE best frind.... whos seeing a girl nw... n shes totaly coco over him n is tryin to befrind us bein some serious ass kissin.... so nw i cant rlei figure out if shes a genuine person.....cuz i wundt want to let my frind get fooled by a girl whod show her tru side latr n dt might nt b a good picture but i dont reli wnat to interfere wid his life in dat area.... but wt confuses me is y is she totlay kissing my ass n wtever i do suddenly gts a " oh my god i do da same thing... i ve da sme thing..." reaction form her n den she goes on bout hw wer both sooooo similar n recently she tried gtin between me n my frind.... i tel him everythin so an incident hapnd dt i tld him bout n latr me n his grl frind were in a convo n i told her to bout the incident.... n wen my my best frnd n her r goin sumwher she sudenly whispers to me infront of him n goes like does he knw bout this or ur tn telin him... dt made my guy frind go like wow.. nw u both r gonna keep secrets from me.. so i got a feelin dt she wanted me n my best male frnd to fight.... i duno.. mayb im beina abit paranoid...
im totlay nt jealous of her or either of e infact im so happy for my best buddy cuz dis is the first time he liked a girl......
