Best Advice You Received on Your Wedding/Marriage

[Mezhgan]

Re: Best Advice You Received on Your Wedding/Marriage

@GlobalGal

I am not arguing, i’m just trying to understand it. Don’t the girl’s family usually invite the newly wed couple over? Most of you that are in good marriages did not do that or did your parents understand that that must not be done. Is it something that’s just understood in our culture? An unspoken rule…

No contact with family at all for a couple years even if they live in the same country? Only a phone call here and there. What’s the bigger long term reward?

trying to think of possibly a real life example.
If you get married and then after a few months your sister or brother get married, you should not attend the wedding because all this time is meant to be devoted to your in laws and husband and building a strong relationship with them…?

Keep the good, tried and tested advice coming everybody.

GG, there is no set rule for this. It really depends on your situation and the personality of your in laws. Not all in-laws require that you spend every minute of your time with them or do everything their way. Everyone is different.

I’ve been married since February of this year and we definitely don’t do this and really, I don’t know anyone in my circle who does. My husband’s parents don’t live with us, are rather busy themselves and quite like their space, so they don’t expect our lives to revolve around them. It really depends on your specific situation and the type of relationship you have with your in-laws.

I honestly don’t think there is any “guide” or “rules” for marriage as every marriage is different. As far as tried and tested advice, that is not written in stone either. What is tried and tested and worked for someone else, may not apply to your situation and may not work for you.