Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
Honey, I know my suitability and personality, and that's why I'm demanding what I'm demanding. Nothing extraordinary, but something basic and balanced.
You worry about ghost, how's that?
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
If I offended you, I apologize, but you need to consider yourself before pointing the blame outwards. Scumbag guys exist, but generalizations are incredibly childish, and you were generalizing. Sometimes we all need a kick in the ass.
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
I agree with this; guys from pakistan just don't hold the same esteem in the eyes of women raised abroad. This is very true.
So as y'all are looking for wives in Pakistan, enjoy trying to get your daughters and sisters married here when what's leftover is like yesterday's pudding.
I don't know if the "esteem" issue can be made for ONLY men living in Pakistan. I think it has more to do that just the way society is set up here and in Pakistan, there are different expectations. More men are open to women working here because that's the norm. Whereas, Pakistan is making strides in that, yes but it's still considered a bit odd. I have extremely educated women in my family back home that don't work because their husbands are loaded and don't feel the need. In general, more men/women here are open to working even with kids. I just think the expectations, in some things, are so different that it's hard for me to adjust. IE: not having kids for a while after marriage is considered "normal" in the social group I'm a part of. In Pakistan, even in my own family, that's considered weird. 9 months after the baraat and there's a child. If there isn't, there's concern. Like I said, Pakistan is making progress in that regards and there ARE people that don't ascribe to that type of thinking but to find a guy that thinks like that AND is religious AND is educated enough to have a job that would be viable here...that's too much to ask for--in my case, at least.
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
Is anyone here born or have lived the majority of their life in the US, yet choose to marry from home? Especially Western girls marrying Eastern boys, I'm interested to know...how did it happen? What are the potential problems couples like these could face? Discuss any pros and cons :)
I would advise against it. All we have in common with people from "back home" ( would never consider it home) " is ethnicity, nothing else. However that doesn't truly make you who you are.
We have no more in common with them then an African American from Atlanta does with a person from the Congo, yes their both black but so what?
The mentality, outlook on life, even how they approach, evaluate and judge a situation is totally different. I found this out for myself just visiting Pakistan, I was very lost, I had absolutely nothing in common with my relatives there except for a family name.
I think Muslims in the West should marry each other, there are like 8 Million Muslims in North America, you can easily find someone here.
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
so desi guys in USA aren’t good…desi guys in pakistan are a no no… why bother looking for a desi then?? 
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
one of my surprises knowing a few high class paks.. when they have parties they dress as provocative as the girls I know in Aus.
the way girls in Aus dress up can never be compared to whatever is worn in Pakistan.
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
so what exactly are you looking for? just out of interest i would like to know PCG
Honey, I know my suitability and personality, and that's why I'm demanding what I'm demanding. Nothing extraordinary, but something basic and balanced.
You worry about ghost, how's that?
Re: Being US Born & Bred, Choosing a Spouse from the Motherland
personally - one shouldnt be importing guys from pakistan
I keep trying to open myself to the possibilities of a guy from Pakistan, but when they have a lot of difficulty with English or if they're not comfortable/familiar with the customs here, it gets to be hard.