I often hear women mention that some guys are not sensitive. What does it mean to be sensitive? How can a man become more sensitive to women?
GS females, please enlighten me.
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I was only being sensitive not to post the first reply and let a lady have the honors.
Damn insensitive of me. :D
Well simple. Its the following principle: If she says jump you start jumping and keep asking her if you are any good. That is sensitivity.
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Guys will never get it.
yes CM.. if she says jump you don’t just start jumping like a dolt.. at least ask her ‘How High?’ :halo:
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It’s very simple. i don’t know why guys make such a big deal about it. We’re not asking for you guys to go to the moon and bring us back a souvenir, just a little sensitivity sometimes.
Well, thats kind of a tough question but I think that guys dont seem sensitive because they are sometimes too literal, honest or blunt. When a gal asks an opinion, a typical guy would answer with blunt honesty if he cared about the gal, thinking that honesty is best (which it is BUT!) Guys, you can always throw in a little extra something that you'll know she will like to hear! If she makes you a new recipe that turns out awful, dont say that its awful! If she asks, say "well, I dont really care for this recipe but the (other thing) you made was the best I ever had" See what I mean? I
NadiaH,
Pleaes be more specific about this “little sensitivity” bit. How little is too little and how much is too much?
So here is the scenario:
Girl lives with her parents and the boy and the girl are on the phone. Girl’s mom interrupts the girl MANY times whenever they talk. After attending to the mom, the girl returns and says to the guy that she is sorry. Guy says nothing and girl erupts, “say it’s ok, she is my mom for crying out loud!”
Now if a guy doesn’t say something, this becomes a pattern that eat him up. If he has the temerity to say something, girl resents him and so does the mommy.
In such a scenario, a sensitive guy ends up with stomach ulcers.
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Well, thats kind of a tough question but I think that guys dont seem sensitive because they are sometimes too literal, honest or blunt. When a gal asks an opinion, a typical guy would answer with blunt honesty if he cared about the gal, thinking that honesty is best (which it is BUT!) Guys, you can always throw in a little extra something that you'll know she will like to hear! If she makes you a new recipe that turns out awful, dont say that its awful! If she asks, say "well, I dont really care for this recipe but the (other thing) you made was the best I ever had" See what I mean? I
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Dear Mamaof3,
This diversionary tactic doesn't address the poor cooking. What if the other recipe sucked and all her cooking sucks?
This just prolongs the misery of the poor husband. :(
Your Sincerely,
InsensitiveDaddyof0
Poor LI - you seem to have the sensitivity of a snowball.
Sensitive Man ---- "Beautiful women must take a little longer to learn cooking skills, but I sure like watching you learn ;) "
LuxuryItem------- "Daaaammmmnnn, baby! If that was a secret family recipe, you should learn how to keep a secret!"
Know the difference, ladies!hehehe
PA asking her that question shows you really dont care about what she says and are questioning her.
Look females dont like honesty. They require being smoothed talked with the truth being sugar coated for them. Guys dont sugar coat. Its like, your fat, your fat. How is it gonna help if i sugar coat it for you?
Sensitivity is basically the ability to tell her off or the truth but by talking to her in such a manner that she doesnt take it in a bad way.
Ie. You gotta be the best ****ing diplomat on the face of the planet 24/7. And when you slip up. You arent sensitive.
Nadia how bout we send you guys to the moon and you can bring the souvenir yourselves or make a castle there if you so please 
LuxuryItem:
I think most girls want you to be considerate of them, consider what their lives are like when you are interacting with them. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand them -- as you would any human being.
To LI, It must be annoying to have to deal with the Mom's interruptions each time you call. Sounds like she wants to hear whats going on! Maybe tell the girl that you think her Mom may be uncomfortable with the phone calls that you share and you think you should have a little chat with her Mom to re-assure her. That may make your girl have to deal with Mom herself or let you have a little chat where you can just let Mom know that you are a good guy, just trying to get to know the daughter and keeping to subjects that she would approve of. Mom should get the hint...
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The above statement can be classified as insensitive...i.e..."when you need them". Refraining from such will be a start. smile
I thought you were a girl, but I guess not!
I think a lot of girls mean guys should "listen" more, and not just listen, but actually pay attention.
anahndi,
very funny. ;)
CM,
being a diplomat would work if you had an inkling of other party's agenda. In my experience, there is more to a woman's behavior than meets the (diplomatic) eye.
Sahar02 & Munni,
there is truth to what you are saying.
Mamaof3,
my contention is that a 20-something girl should have some personal space, and I am not negotiating with mommy the topics' list.
Luxury dont even bother understanding women. It aint possible. I tried, until i saw the light. There is no hope. There is no method to their madness.
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Okay, that scenario is very specific, thank you. Now i can help you understand it a bit better.
Now in this case, the girl should have said it nicely - “Please say it’s alright, i was just trying to help my mother, i am sure you understand my position.” In which case, your response would/should have been, “That’s alright, sometimes i do feel slightly frustrated, but i understand.”
The girl’s tone of voice is all-important, however. She should not have ‘erupted’ at you for such a trivial issue.
A “little” sensitivity goes a loooooooooong way. When i mean a “little”, i’ll be more precise - i mean, stuff like showing her that you listen when she is talking, even if you are bored out of your eye sockets and you wish she would shut up because she is going on and on about blah blah blah, just show her you are listening. You don’t have to agree with her, never agree simply for the sake of agreeing - that’s very annoying. Just listen, hear her out. And this should be reciprocal; she should, manifestly, always listen to you as well when you want to vent.
A “little” sensitivity is also like - doing little things for her, out of the blue, that you know she likes. i mean, i am not talking about buying her a 24 carat gold ring, but a single flower now and then with a short, personal note could go a LONG way :~/ No fancy schmancy watches, perfumes, gifts, cards, waghera waghera. That stuff sucks. Just show her you care, in small ways, again and again. Make it sincere. Obviously, she should be doing the same for YOU - it’s a two-way thing.
5Abi - That reminds me of a saying 
If they could send one guy to the moon, why can’t they send 'em all 