Okay so my dilemma.
Lately there is this parental figure in my in laws who is well respected by all. He keeps making fun of me all the time in front of others. He makes fun of me for being skinny, for being a watchful parent, etc
Since he is elderlyy hubby wont speak to him. I am short tempered n i know if i do it wud end up messy.
Any auggestions?
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Put on some weight? :-/
j/k j/k
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call that guy faT [laughingly] or by any other traits that he might have like Tingu, nak-chapTaa, moToo, patloo, ganjoo, muchhandar, baagaR billaa etc :D
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Ignoreeeeee. Its hard but he will stop after sometime.
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people like that continue in their ways as long as they see that their comments are having an impact.
stop providing him with that entertainment.......
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^ This.
It's going to end eventually. Let it go. No point in feeding into it or making something so small into a big issue.
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ignorance is bliss!!! 
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if i were you, i'd actually start joining in and make fun of myself too, yknow just say stuff like "jee uncle, mai toh bilkul hi sookhi sarri hui hoon ufff allah". where can he go after that? i guess if an elder says something like that, just take it with a pinch of salt.
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^
Bet you know all about it people making fun of you huh
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yes but thats okies, i make fun of me too
I don't care how elderly the person is. If someone is continuously making fun of my wife or my daughter, especially the physical attribute of them, I am going to stop that person in his chaddi.
I guess the most polite way of your hubby dealing with, when the uncle brings it up the next time, is to say that 'but I love my wife just like that. I don't want her to change."
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Mai ne toh kabhi nahi suna, humble sweeftie? I doubt it 
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if an elder makes fun of a much younger person and he is also stands higher up in his relatiobship with that person then he is opening himself for ridicule and insult from the victim of his verbal abuse. apnii izzat apne haath...he should refrain from snide remarks or else he himself will be a target of such remarks.
your hubby must tell his uncle or whatever that "whatever negative remarks you make towards my wife is NOT appreciated by her and i'm afraid that she might retaliate someday which you will surely NOT like it...so, please leave her alone. thank you!" :)
KKF, there is no need for the hubby to say that my wife does not appreciate it ..., as it may make uncle start making fun of her that how chooi mooi she is. Hubby should simply say that i don't appreciate it.
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KKF, there is no need for the hubby to say that my wife does not appreciate it ..., as it may make uncle start making fun of her that how chooi mooi she is. Hubby should simply say that i don't appreciate it.
it would mean that he put him on notice so if, out of frustration, she retaliates then he will have to blame only himself and no one else because he was put on notice earlier by the hubby...it's like a disclaimer/legal notice! :D
aisaa kah denaa munaasib hogaa taa k sanad rahe!
if an uncle does NOT get this clear message then he is a bonehead indeed.
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How I wish I could go back to the time where I could actually be made fun of for being too skinny :)
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Fight fire with fire, but in good fun.
My grandpa used to tease me for being too skinny as a kid. My father thought it was cute, my mother got annoyed that he wouldn’t stop, even as a teenager. I told grandpa on my 16th birthday I was skinny because I had a rare stomach disease which made me incapable of gaining weight or having a baby and it made me sad because no one would marry me. He got all worried and talked to my parents. I got it trouble, but he never said it again. mwuahahahaha! 
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Oh man this sort of reminds me of my nani who has been saying that I'm naive and not chalak like girls in Pakistan since the beginning of time!! She has actually accidentally said it to the wrong people in the wrong context far too many times now. All I can do is sigh and move on :(.
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well - as long as he is doing it as a joke - you should not react seriously.
one way to make it easy for you is that you can tell him " App khush ho lain G "
A condescending laugh, while looking at then square in the eye then and dismissive shake of head with a smirk..while walking away does wonders on the ego of such bullied. For added kameena points lock eyes with theirs, look to something that they may be conscious about, a belly, double chin.. And them lock eyes back with a knowing condescending smile..... Ahhhh how I love to make such people really small.