Being kaali pakistani

[ganxta_girLie]

Re: Being kaali pakistani

@goodname

Ganxta_girLie, none of us is perfect. Ask Miss World and she too would likely have some insecurity about how she looks or how much she weighs or something else. But aren’t we all lucky because we were born without mental or physical disabilities into households where we never really saw the real wants? We went to schools, had parents who were alive while we were growing up, and today still lead very privileged lives compared to the vast majority of people in the world. There are so many people who lack what we had and what we have but still find contentment. If they can be happy then why can’t we as well?

Also, in the West at least black is considered beautiful, there is a multi-billion dollar tanning industry, and many people would kill to have a skin like you. If you have also found the love of your life who sees and appreciates your inner and outer beauty then I don’t see any reason for any tension. If some people are still nitpicking about your skin tone, they are probably insecure about some feature of their own appearances and feel good putting down others. And they are the ones who need to deal with it, not you. Haters gonna hate so don’t bother yourself about what they have to say.

About your parents though, rest assured that they desire the best for you and love you for who you are. The reason they might have seemed to prefer a different skin color for you while you were growing up is because they probably thought that you wouldn’t get the best ‘rishta.’ Your parents, however, are by no means an exception. Some desi parents can be remarkably pessimist, who would habitually entertain the worst-case scenarios and even nag their children for their perceived shortcomings. But you know what they still really care for their children and want nothing but the best for them.

Finally, I know plenty of social circles comprising chiefly of Pakistanis both in North America and the UK and, now that I think about it, there are all sorts of people in each of these: gora, ‘kala’, short, tall… This is the first time I am hearing that people would not befriend you because you are perceived as dark-skinned but the more important thing to consider is that would you really want to befriend those shallow people? I mean those are the very kind of people who would talk behind your back and make you feel uncomfortable with snide comments and sarcastic jabs while you are in their presence. To keep you sanity intact, such people are best avoided so good riddance I would say.

Your right and i agree 100% with u..I’ll try to change my thinking INshallah