Being forced into a marriage.

[rolla_coaster]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

if only diwana would propose… i wouldnt be going through this!

consider it done now.expect a pm.

[Naabigh]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

if only diwana would propose… i wouldnt be going through this!

diwana hai- pagal nahi

[TLK]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

Anyways, what do you guys think? Should I meet him...

I think you should. Do not reject before meeting him as he might genuinely be the kind of guy you are looking for.

[Krypton]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@TLK

I think you should. Do not reject before meeting him as he might genuinely be the kind of guy you are looking for.

yes, i have always dreamt of a nalki wala, doing kardhai day and night for other women.

@Naabigh

diwana hai- pagal nahi

same difference

@rolla_coaster

consider it done now.expect a pm.

mere itney kismat kahan

@redvelvet

Yeah your mom gave me a ring and told me how they lured her in with an offer of prettily embroidered clothes in exchange for your hand in unholy matrimony. Your mom said she didn’t even have to think about it. She just said “DEAL!”

C’mon Philosophy…if you’re so averse to this rishta, then simply let your parents know. If you don’t know the guy well…tell em you’re open to gettting to no him but that if you refuse…you don’t want to be pressured or blackmailed.

it’s not that easy:(

@Hadeel

Talking about nalki’s is wayyyyy better than dealing with that winking face of diwana 24/7.

Choose the nalki wala guy.

HAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHAHAHA. LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

[STA]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

^dhaaga, etc…for tarpaye…silaayi…kardhai…ruffoo…etc.

first i thought you were talking about plumber.
he is doing some women stuff..

[Krypton]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@stayyabali

first i thought you were talking about plumber.
he is doing some women stuff..

so, he is a no-no?

[njgal]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

no harm in meeting him but you can say no if you want right?

[yourfriend]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

metric pass
general store
nalki business
...................April fools ??

[Krypton]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

it's "nalki"

and not everything is a joke:)

njgal--nah, once u meet...it's a done deal..

[redvelvet]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

njgal--nah, once u meet...it's a done deal..

^Not necessarily. You have to set the boundaries in the beginning. If it gets really bad...you may even have to let the cousin and his parents know that it's a NO from you....and they'd have to hear it directly from you...cuz some parents can't be trusted to give an accurate picture.

Or....if you're absolutely certain you don't want to marry this guy........then just play the same "pressure" game your parents are playing. Ask them if they'd prefer rejecting the rishta via phone...or whether they'd like for YOU to reject them in person to their faces when you get to Pakistan. See, if that works.

[ehl-e-chamman]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

philo NO!!!

IF this is not an April fools thread then
.
.
.

This will not be easy … but do stand your ground.
You aren’t really alone. There have been (and continue to be) others that haven’t caved.

[Sehrysh]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

njgal--nah, once u meet...it's a done deal..

Maybe, maybe not. RV hit the nail on the head - set boundaries at the beginning and ensure that your parents and you have a mutual understanding and respect for one another's decisions.

Each of us knows our own parents best and what their expectations are. If your parents are the sort where they think that your agreeing to meet him is a foregone yes to the rishta, then I wouldn't suggest meeting him at all. If your parents are willing to respect your decision, then there isn't any harm in meeting him - though that means that you are willing to consider him as a potential mate.

[Gaia]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

Explain to your parents that meeting up does not directly lead to a marriage, and if they do not understand that, than there is no meeting.

And good luck!

[Guac]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

Didn't you say he was in Pakistan........so to meet him you have to go there..................and then who knows what will happen..............................

[STA]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@philosophy

:( so, he is a no-no?

I can not say no, because I dont know your background either.
If he did matriculation but what have you done so far in education.
Is your background also same nalki thingy or different.
Dont know how comfortable are you with it.

[Krypton]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

^:omg: no my family isnt part of the nalki business

and everyone…

**
HAPPY APRILL FOOLS, GOTCHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

alhum, my parents aren’t like this.

and if they were i would never open a life1 thread

but theres some wonderful advice in here:D

oh and for mods who will jump at this opportunity: there’s no reason to lock this. please pm me if you decide to do so, with a reason. Thanks.
**

[Orpheus]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

this is a april fools' prank. believe in not what she says, she has a boyfriend and all is well in her life.

[Krypton]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

@Orpheus

this is a april fools’ prank. believe in not what she says, she has a boyfriend and all is well in her life.

I LOVE BOB

[Sara516]

Re: Being forced into a marriage.

I KNEW THIS WAS AN APRILS FOOL! :D

But good thread!