Re: Being dupli patli pakistani
I was 93 lbs and a size 2 when I got married...at the height of my fertility issues about 4 years into our marriage, I'd gone up to 150lbs....in 2008, when both parents passed
away I lost 40lbs in 9 months....If I had a dollar for every catty, stupid and downright mean comment I heard from various family members regarding the ups and downs of my weight, I'd be sitting on a chaise lounge in my own private villa overlooking the mediterranean right now....
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Honestly now Im really scared to travel to Pakistan! Last time when I was there I was 12 years old, so a kid(Im born and raised here) and well I dont think I can take all "insults" & comments if aunties gonna make about my looks.. Well Im not fat, but Im not skinny either. Im tall and lets say "curvy" so I cant never be skinny like some Pakistani girls are. So do aunties really make comments straight to your face? I have really bad self-esteem, I have always been self contiguous about my body so I dont know can I take comments without getting upset. Here if I have met auntie from Pakistan, they have just been polite, and well said only good things usually about my height and skin tone (which is still weird for me! I cant never get used to that someone says comments about skintone) But I know compared to some Pakistani girls, I look "bigger" so Im really scared that when we are going there in fall that I will get a lot negative comments :/
Re: Being dupli patli pakistani
Honestly now Im really scared to travel to Pakistan! Last time when I was there I was 12 years old, so a kid(Im born and raised here) and well I dont think I can take all "insults" & comments if aunties gonna make about my looks.. Well Im not fat, but Im not skinny either. Im tall and lets say "curvy" so I cant never be skinny like some Pakistani girls are. So do aunties really make comments straight to your face? I have really bad self-esteem, I have always been self contiguous about my body so I dont know can I take comments without getting upset. Here if I have met auntie from Pakistan, they have just been polite, and well said only good things usually about my height and skin tone (which is still weird for me! I cant never get used to that someone says comments about skintone) But I know compared to some Pakistani girls, I look "bigger" so Im really scared that when we are going there in fall that I will get a lot negative comments :/
Agreed. Don't you go there, aunties are waiting for you to make fun of you.
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People give good comments to skinny girls in Pakistan as well. I am married, have one son and always enviable for both married and unmarried girls for my skinny figure.
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I call skinny girls ,"chuski":D
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93 lbs and a** size 2** 
Is it some kind of new size 
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where are dupli patli girls , i want to meet them.
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Excuse me, i’m afraid I don’t quite get your point…are you not familiar with sizing in the US? (2/4 6/8 10/12 etc) What is there to be confused about?
I’m 5 ft 1, small frame, petite build…at the time i was married I was very athletic with lean muscle mass…
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Excused 
thanks for the details 
Basically i’m a pure Paindo so couldn’t get quickly :cobra:
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me too…
Re: Being dupli patli pakistani
Relatives always find a way to let you know you're not perfect. I wish the mirror would talk back and let them know too where they stand.
When I was 14, I was 5'7 tall and 60 kgs. My newly wed aunt (mami) was 5'8 tall and 48 kgs straight from Pakistan. You all can imagine the comments I got from relatives around incl. the very nice mami who told me that unmarried girls, no matter height, shouldnt be above 50 kgs. <-- free advice for gs unmarried lot :).
When I was 18, I was still 5'7 tall and now 50 kgs. Again, there were only negative and rude comments.
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^recent age and weight plz
so i can make some rude comments :D
P.S. i m 6 ft with 90kgs of weight
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Go ahead, I think I'm immune now :P
25 and 60 kg
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c'mon for height of 5'7 i think 60 kg is ok
u can perfectly carry all kind of clothings
:)
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Relatives always find a way to let you know you're not perfect. I wish the mirror would talk back and let them know too where they stand.
When I was 14, I was 5'7 tall and 60 kgs. My newly wed aunt (mami) was** 5'8 tall and 48 kgs** straight from Pakistan. You all can imagine the comments I got from relatives around incl. the very nice mami who told me that unmarried girls, no matter height, shouldnt be above 50 kgs. <-- free advice for gs unmarried lot :).
When I was 18, I was still 5'7 tall and now 50 kgs. Again, there were only negative and rude comments.
That doesnt sound very healthy ?!
Re: Being dupli patli pakistani
Honestly now Im really scared to travel to Pakistan! Last time when I was there I was 12 years old, so a kid(Im born and raised here) and well I dont think I can take all "insults" & comments if aunties gonna make about my looks.. Well Im not fat, but Im not skinny either. Im tall and lets say "curvy" so I cant never be skinny like some Pakistani girls are. So do aunties really make comments straight to your face? I have really bad self-esteem, I have always been self contiguous about my body so I dont know can I take comments without getting upset. Here if I have met auntie from Pakistan, they have just been polite, and well said only good things usually about my height and skin tone (which is still weird for me! I cant never get used to that someone says comments about skintone) But I know compared to some Pakistani girls, I look "bigger" so Im really scared that when we are going there in fall that I will get a lot negative comments :/
You are 22/23 now I guess (if the 89 in your nick is your year of birth).
And you must be a resident of europe/america, educated, independent and free. Have your own opinion etcetera.
Then why is one comment from somebody-who-doesnt-matter enough to scare you to go to Pakistan or anywhere?!
I don't understand this. I see it here so often: girls who are made of sugar and honey, a little bit of salt is enough to get them out of balance. Where is the confidence?
Now if somebody you really care for says some very very nasty things to you (on a regular base), I can understand that you become insecure and get a low self esteem. Or if you have been bullied very badly, or if you are 13.
But really?! You are so damn scared that an aunty (you will probably see once) will make negative remarks about you and you wont be able to handle that?
Do you live in a bubble? If so then get out of it right now....
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c'mon for height of 5'7 i think 60 kg is ok
u can perfectly carry all kind of clothings
:)
lol I wish, but no. I would like to loose abt 2-3 kgs. I think around 58 suits me personally .. maybe I'm just gonne crazy haha ..
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^ then best of luck
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You are 22/23 now I guess (if the 89 in your nick is your year of birth). And you must be a resident of europe/america, educated, independent and free. Have your own opinion etcetera.
Then why is one comment from somebody-who-doesnt-matter enough to scare you to go to Pakistan or anywhere?! I don't understand this. I see it here so often: girls who are made of sugar and honey, a little bit of salt is enough to get them out of balance. Where is the confidence?
Now if somebody you really care for says some very very nasty things to you (on a regular base), I can understand that you become insecure and get a low self esteem. Or if you have been bullied very badly, or if you are 13.
But really?! You are so damn scared that an aunty (you will probably see once) will make negative remarks about you and you wont be able to handle that?
Do you live in a bubble? If so then get out of it right now....
I know that sounds stupid! But really you cant understand if you dont have low self-esteem/ insecurity problems. Its really annoying trust me. I dont even know where do I get that from because I have never been bullied etc. But I have always had low self-esteem, and I just think too much what other people thinks about me... Its not like I would cry a lot if someone says something but it will stuck my head really long time and really would upset me.
My dad says Im too sensitive, and its true. Im trying always to get stronger and not think what others think about me...but its hard. And funniest thing is that It probably doesn't show outside that I will get upset by something or that I have low self-esteem because I "act" like I dont care but inside it just feels bad. Its hard to explain...
I dont even like compliments, because I dont believe that its true if someone says compliment to me. My selfesteem is messed up, I know and Im trying to work on it..maybe that would make me stronger if I get a lot feedback about my looks..who knows.
And I wrote that middle of night so that made it sound even serious problem than it really is.
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No, feedback from others on your looks wont help.
Once you start appreciating yourself, you will care less of what others think about you.
So love yourself.
Looks are not everything and I am pretty sure that you look good. Because often it is the good looking girls who are extra conscious about their appearance.
No need to stress over this at all.
And please never compare yourself with (photoshopped/plastic/full makeup) models/actresses.
:k:
And if an aunty makes a stupid remark about your looks, then you will see often it is either somebody who isnt pretty herself or somebody who is as insecure as a mouse. So why would you even worry or feel bad about it.