with your jethani/derani…
possible? or are there entirely too many politics involved in ever becoming as close as friends?
I don't know and never will as my hubby has no brothers. yippee!
Too many politics. I always have to be careful of what I say.
I don't know and never will as my hubby has no brothers. yippee!
Good for you.
Too many politics. I always have to be careful of what I say.
I hear ya. I definitely think you can get along well but if ur the type to talk abt your problems or vent...err being best frends is out of the question.
lol at yippee!
Share your thoughts..
with your jethani/derani...
possible? or are there entirely too many politics involved in ever becoming as close as friends?
its the circle, you are new they would never allow to score more than them, :) and the other thing it depends upon ur husband and the family as well.
Re: Being best friends
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One of my jethanis is my best friend.. I can’t imagine my life without her 
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I think if you share any interest out side of every day life. As in career and stuff.
Re: Being best friends
It's possible but many other factors come in, such as the closeness of the brothers, relationship with other family members.
I have a working relationship with my devrani but we are not best friends by any means.
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I will let you know after this summer but I agree with Nikik - depends on closeness of the brothers.
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No, i dont think it can happen… well there are always exceptional cases but generally its a no-go zone … politics, family culture, alot really depends … if you live with them in the same house , possibly good relations might develop between the two …
… they dont say for nothing that one has to be careful of every action and every word with the inlaws 
It's possible but many other factors come in, such as the closeness of the brothers, relationship with other family members.
I have a working relationship with my devrani but we are not best friends by any means.
"A working relationship" I like that, I will henceforth use it to describe my relationship with husbands brothers wife.
I have a working relationship with my spoon, er sorry, I meant my BIL's wife.
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My husband and his brother are very close. But I am not close to my BIL. I guess we shall see after he gets married. But I see nothing wrong with having a good relationship with them.
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with your jethani/derani...
possible? or are there entirely too many politics involved in ever becoming as close as friends?
Sara, it totally depends. In a perfect world, I would love to be best friends with my devrani/jethani...love them like my own and include them in everything I do. However, these relationships are delicate and sometimes its better to be friends rather then best friends.
Your devrani/jethani owe their first loyalty to their brothers and mothers. If you're frustrated about something or someone and need to vent, you automatically turn to your best friend for support. If that ends up being your devrani/jethani, then you risk them harboring negative feelings, lagai bujhai and several other possibilities.
Its way better to be friendly and maintain a good relationship with them rather then be best friends. :)
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im close to my fiances brother, hes lovely, not sure about the sister though, shes nice but ever so formal......
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They could get along fine, but too many politics involved to be best friends.
"A working relationship" I like that, I will henceforth use it to describe my relationship with husbands brothers wife.
I have a working relationship with my spoon, er sorry, I meant my BIL's wife.
hahaha. What I meant is that we have a relationship that works for both of us. No conflicts and no expectations either. We respect each other and meet on friendly terms but we don't really share any personal situations or challenges, or the closeness that I'm sure many others in this relationship share.