The thought of being away from my parents after marriage scares me to death.. I cant make my heart or brain understand the fact that it will happen one day…
And after rejecting some very good potential rishtas because of the fact that they lived in another city… finally i have started to hear strange things from my extended family like
" bahanay karti hai… she must have someone else in mind!"
What to do with these people??? 
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The aunties will always talk about you.. .They have nothing better to do...
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You give them a tight slap, that's what you do.
Jahil log some are you can't make or base your decisions on what they say or do. Live the life the way you want because when you get married and god forbid there are any issues they will be the last one to come offer any solace.
I am of the situation as you cuz i dont want to marry abroad but most good rishtas are of people who have plans of settling abroad in future. A different city i can still manage (though i wud prefer same city) but just the thought of moving out of Pakistan scares the hell out of me which is quite funny because i have spent all my teens in Canada and i was miserable when i was coming back. Sigh.
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The aunties will always talk about you.. .They have nothing better to do...
Not only the aunties...its the uncles and girls too... Strange people i tell you!
You give them a tight slap, that's what you do. I am of the situation as you cuz i dont want to marry abroad but most good rishtas are of people who have plans of settling abroad in future. A different city i can still manage (though i wud prefer same city) but just the thought of moving out of Pakistan scares the hell out of me which is quite funny because i have spent all my teens in Canada and i was miserable when i was coming back. Sigh.
Marrying abroad is the last thing i want to do but thank GOD not even my parents are up for this thought!!
I want to marry someone in the same city... I dont have a big family and i want to stay close to my parents and sister!
Slapping them is a very cool idea but knowing me cannot be applied! :(
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Slapping them is a very cool idea but knowing me cannot be applied! :(
Hukm karo, i'll do it for you :D I love slapping people :p
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Marrying abroad is the last thing i want to do but thank GOD not even my parents are up for this thought!!
Never say never. Nobody wants to send their kids away but there are cases when you have to make all kinds of adjustments. I just hope every guy and every girl is able to meet the right kind of people for them and live happily ever after :D sigh.
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Never say never. Nobody wants to send their kids away but there are cases when you have to make all kinds of adjustments. I just hope every guy and every girl is able to meet the right kind of people for them and live happily ever after :D sigh.
See i am very hard core about the idea of living abroad!!! When i say i cant ..i simply cant !!!
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See i am very hard core about the idea of living abroad!!! When i say i cant ..i simply cant !!!
I am the same way. BUT i am telling you just in case ;).
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Its difficult to imagine life without parents, isnt it?
My parents and us sisters were the same way Hadeel. We rejected soooooooo many rishtay based on their geographic location but its not always a good idea. After looking high and low, my parents married my youngest sister off to a guy in Jersery…
I mean, you just dont know where your qismat will take you and to put restrictions on it is not always a good idea.
If its any consolation, you can always ask the guy if you two could move back to where your parents are. If he agrees, it can be a long term goal for you guys. 
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sorry but i think it's a stupid reason to reject a rishta, more stupid than rejecting on basis of height or complexion.
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I knowwww…thats why i am trying to make myself okay with the idea but somehow i cant seem to understand
My heart jumps in… :–(
Well then its your point of view but it would be good to know why you think so?
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Well then its your point of view but it would be good to know why you think so?
how can someone reject a rishta just because of moving further away from their parents' house? if you really liked the rishta you'd never do that so please admit that you didn't like the rishta anyway.
I can't believe that someone can leave a very good rishta(good looks, money, good character etc etc) just because of that.
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You wont be the first one to leave your parents. The girls who do go away doesnt mean they love their parents any less.
what will you do if your husband has to move away after marriage..........you can hardly predict what life has in store for you..........
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how can someone reject a rishta just because of moving further away from their parents' house? if you really liked the rishta you'd never do that so please admit that you didn't like the rishta anyway.
I can't believe that someone can leave a very good rishta(good looks, money, good character etc etc) just because of that.
There can be many reasons.. When you are just two sisters, mom and dad who would be alone when you get married and there would be no one to take care of them or even ask them how they are doing, then you make such decisions. A random guy's looks, character, money are nothing infront of my will to stay close to my parents.
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**You wont be the first one to leave your parents. **The girls who do go away doesnt mean they love their parents any less.
what will you do if your husband has to move away after marriage..........you can hardly predict what life has in store for you..........
Yeah thats what i am trying to make myself understand but somehow nothing works :--(
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There can be many reasons.. When you are just two sisters, mom and dad who would be alone when you get married and there would be no one to take care of them or even ask them how they are doing, then you make such decisions. A random guy's looks, character, money are nothing infront of my will to stay close to my parents.
Okay. So when you reject a good rishta(the one your parents like too) for this reason does that make your parents happy or sad?
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Okay. So when you reject a good rishta(the one your parents like too) for this reason does that make your parents happy or sad?
What is there to be sad about? If i dont feel like marrying a guy why would my parents be sad or happy.
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What is there to be sad about? If i dont feel like marrying a guy why would my parents be sad or happy.
So you're saying your parents don't show any concern when you reject a rishta? Do they even bother to ask you the reason for rejecting it? And do you ever tell them the real reason that you never wanna leave them and move to another town or city? If yes, what's their reaction? Do they tell you that you don't need to worry about them? Or do they agree with you?
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So you're saying your parents don't show any concern when you reject a rishta? Do they even bother to ask you the reason for rejecting it?
They are obviously concerned but not to a extent that they start feeling sad about it. They ask, i give them the reason.. and im happy they understand Alhumdolillah.
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Lol. It's funny. When you're living with your parents, you get into arguments with them and occasionally might wish you lived away from them. But then it's tough to picture being away from them as well.
You have the right to your individual opinion/criteria for marriage. What may be a priority to one person might be stupid to another. We're all different. It's hard to find good rishtay and if location is one of the biggest issues for you, then at least consider guys that are living on your side or coast of the country as opposed to someone who may be very far away, for example.
You never know where you're destined to be. You might find a great guy who lives in the same city as you and then several years into the marriage you and him might end up moving to another state or even country for various reasons such as career, etc. Finding someone who lives in the same city as you and your parents is no guarantee that you'll always stay in that area. Just something to think about.