Hmm, tell me something. Have you analyzed what you feel for her? Do you think you have romantic feelings for her and are “letting her go” because Mr. D can provide a better future for her?
OR…do you simply not have ANY romantic feelings for her at all? Cuz I’ve never seen a guy use such intense flattery/terms of endearment for a girl that was just a friend?
Just because she has talked to Mr. D and understands him a bit better now is NO guarantee that she is interested in him enough to marry him. She might not even feel ready for marriage. She may not even be attracted to him. Or she might marry him, who knows? Just keep in mind that proposals don’t come with guarantees of reciprocation.
****Let’s say that her and D get married. She is now someone’s wife. And desi society DOES NOT quite readily accept or fully understand the idea of a married person having a good friend of the opposite sex. Society and plain common sense will JUSTIFY D’s possessiveness toward his wife. Few people will understand or sympathize with you if continue the same intense chumminess with her after she is married. In fact your behavior (friendship, intense affection, flowery flattery) is more likely to land her in trouble with her husband. You say that you want to change D’s possessive behavior. Well, NEWS FLASH, you can’t do that! You can’t change another person. The only thing you’ll be able to change is YOU…and your amount of involvement in your dear one’s life…which will not be the same as it is now.
**** You said in your post that she hasn’t realized her feelings for you get. What about you? What have you realized? Okay, fine, so you’re 18, and you’re not settled. But…one doesn’t have to settled and finished with school to have feelings for someone. Do you “love” her in that way or no?