I’m curious to hear your thoughts. Do you find it morally wrong to be affectionate in Public with your wife? I had a pretty detailed discussion with my fiancee when we were discussing a Pakistani coworker of ours smooching with the wifey at our party. I thought that it was nothing wrong besides may be breaking rules of etiquette, while my fiance was arguing the opposite. I found that really surprising coming from her because we’re boh quite liberal in our outlooks.
holding hands… and little smoochies are graceful… but hugging ,slipping tongues and going full at it is too much… hate it when ur standing some where and a couple 10 inches away from u is going at it
I think its inappropriate to be frenching someone, even if you're married to them , in public. A peck on the cheek, or holding hands, well, there is nothing wrong with that. I think its healthy really, because it promotes the image of a healthy marriage where the couple is in love. If you block that, then you get a society that is scared to manifest their sexual emotions. Every thought, even if its pure and simple love, becomes evil.
But frenching is going overboard because then it snowballs into other things...
M a very shy person when it comes down to showin emotions i public … still holding hands seems okay.. infact dont think anythin wrong with.. hugging is awkward, kissing n frenchin is definitely no no … :nono:
i think its dishusting to do it in public, what if the kids r around? i saw a desi couple doing that in the town centre i left then, but the way they were going looked like they were heading towards the closest bush
I hate the word affection in it's physical sense ;)
I think everything NEEDS to be banned ! :D
And yeah it's VILE ! I have a particular friend who makes out in public with her boyfriend. Her being a pakistani, and him being 2 years younger than her. I need a gun.....
well if i go on a honeymoon with my wife to lets say alaska..i wouldnt mind smooching her ..
when we were migrating to the US we stopped in italy for a day..and these ppl were kissing every single place we went to..we saw it at the airport, hotel, shopping mall..i mean it was crazy.. if i were to kiss my wife there who would give a damn? i just dont prefer to do it at jackson heights or say laloo khait u know
Whatever your personal opinions may be, please don't pass them off as religious edicts, unless you have evidence.
In any given case, there are your personal likes and dislikes and then there is an over-lying environment factor. If someone is in Pakistan, even holding hands on a street in Lahore would probably be frowned upon. Whereas in a place like Paris, Rome or San Francisco this is perfectly normal.
So that is the first level that determines how far you can go.
Within this environment factor you deal with your own preferences. Holding hands, kissing etc are entirely a matter of personal preference and situation when you are living in the west, because these are considered normal in this environment.
Generally it would seem that as long as the public affection does not involve violation of your satr (nudity), it is your own discretion and judgment. It is hard to draw the line in the sand.
I find it amusing when in this matter, some people above are discriminating others because of the color of their skin: desis vs non-desis. Its your own hang-ups which make you feel uncomfortable seeing another of your own (desi) holding hands of his wife. A positive way of looking at it is that you are trying to hold on to the eastern values taught to you since childhood, and when you see another person (from ostensibly the same background) transgressing, you feel embarrassed and irritated.
As you grow up and mature, passing judgements on other people in such matters will seem most irrelevant. Just keep the environmental norms in mind and do whatever you find appropriate.
i saw a desi couple doing that in the town centre
i left then, but the way they were going looked like they were heading towards the closest bush