Just want to get your opinion here. How long would it, or does it take you to completely move on and be able to start a new relationship after breaking up, or even after a divorce? I’m not talking about able to forget the significant other, but about mentally ready to be able to start a new relationship, and not worry about previous heartbreaks, and other effects?
Is it the same thing for those who just breakup with their bf/gf and the divorcees? Or is it different?
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Rule of thumb:
For men, divide the length of the relationship by three.
For women, multply by three.
Generally speaking. Exceptions do occur. With the advent of feminism and a simultaneous spike in the number of effiminate men in society, the gap is narrowing.
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depends on your involvment into the relationship...and why it broke up
if you were very compromised into it,and had high hopes, but were deceived by your significant other...it wwill take many many months....even years
but if you were not deeply involved in the relationship, andd broke it because it was falling apart...it will be easier....but make sure you take time enough to think about what did not work, and why it fails
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tell me about the rule for women…harsh man. totally sucks 
i know a few chicas who have totally started a new relationship…basically to deal with the previous breakup…but umm, frankly, it’s not been good. and i know a baji, and it took her…lessee…about 5 years just to able to come and sit in company after her divorce. i mean, i see the difference there, between the coping and being normal.
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like noor-e-a said, level of involvement, expectations, hopes...all these make it easy/harder to get over relationship hiccups.also how willing YOU are to take step forward and not look back only to move backward 10 steps. bf/gf breakups are easy to manage but divorce is hard especially for girls bcos it will make their life and future difficult. not to mention fewer mariage proposals which is a headache in itself.
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I like that! 
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the following factors will make a difference:
length of relationship
your age at the time of the break-up
whether the break up is mutual or if one party wants out while the other doesn't
the solidity of your relationship......(just dating/engaged/married)
whether there are children involved.
financials......if there is alimony and division of assets involved
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i think it all depends on the type of previous relationship you had.
what was it that made you break up in the first place? and there's a whole bunch of things that it could ...anywhere from her becoming more high maintenance or him being abusive.
if you feel thankful that the relationship broke off, than maybe it will be easier for you to move on with your life, because you've left the past behind, and want to move ahead and on with you life.
but on the other hand, if you still love the other person...well then, it's gonna take a longer time to get over the fact that you two are no longer together.
and breaking off a married relationship is a whole lot different compared to a bf/gf relationship. i don't think there's any way you can compare the two...unless of course you're living with your bf/gf as a 'husband/wife'...
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i sort of disagree with you here dope…
I cant believe i am saying this but i honestly think men take much longer time. They may be ready to move on physcially even get married to the second woman but that place for the first one - it takes one heck of a time for second wife/gf/etc to take.
Khumar!Everyone is different and is every relationship. But you must give yourself time upon closure of every relationship otherwise you will make mistakes and then you will regret *sigh.
When you feel that person does not belong any where in your life. When you are ready to throw away everything that he/she gave. When it doesn’t hurt talking about them. Then you know you have moved on.
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Theres no set formula, its different for everyone.
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:k:
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even though it came as a surprise to me, i was extremely relieved that it was finally over since i was quite miserable as well. And i think i am doing a great job of getting over it Alhamdulillah. Its still hard to even think about someone else because it feels like i am cheating on that person but i think taking each day as it dawned helped out a lot.
Not to say it doesnt hurt or wont hurt for God knows how long but i am sure it also depends on how involved both parties are/were.
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...as i said the other day on a different topic, no-one knows what tomorrow will bring, i was in a relationship which ended recently at no fault by either party, yeah it does play on my mind once or twice a day but hey life moves on and just like i have, so has she.
To add to what Barfee said there's no logical equation to how one will cope with moving on after a break up or a divorce or whatever, everyone's an individual and we all tick in our own unique way.
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interesting...
so then what is the difference between closure and moving on and getting into a new relationship? i mean, you can have closure, but still you might feel like you can't get into another relationship, because you don't have time for it, you don't want to, there isn't anyone who can stand up to that certain criteria you have in your brain...etc etc. or is there no difference?
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study medicine ull forget everything :halo:
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EMM...already doin' that...well...so called pre-med anyways :o
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and who said i have to forget anything 
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u need to focus on ur studies 
On serious notes if not going to forget then how can one can move on?
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I am still wallowing.
I bought myself a frog figure, and Every time I think of him I throw it on the floor and squash it with my feet. Squahing prince charming is quite relaxing actually.
and previous breakups do make one bitter. there's no denying that.
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if you were very compromised into it,and had high hopes, but were deceived by your significant other...it wwill take many many months....even years
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Spot on. ah.