Beheshti Zewar

[Muzna]

@STA

buy behashti zewar, it is good book for women’s problem/masael.

seriously?
have you read it yourself?

[khattichic]

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@STA

buy behashti zewar, it is good book for women's problem/masael.

How is it you know so much about women's problem/*masael? *Not trying to be rude or catty here, but you have an awful lot to say about women's issues it seems, be they trivial or major

[STA]

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seriously? have you read it yourself?

It is one of the most popular book of *fiqh *and cover most common and daily problems of everyday life. Most families owns a copy. This book majorly discusses women. It does contain valuable information for both men and women too.
Yes, I had read it few years ago.

[Muzna]

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It is one of the most popular book of *fiqh *and cover most common and daily problems of everyday life.

And can you, for the purpose of understanding your mindset, explain how effective this book is?

Most families owns a copy.

and how are you able to make this statement? most families where?

This book majorly discusses women. It does contain valuable information for both men and women too. Yes, I had read it few years ago.

Perhaps we should have a dedicated thread to discuss the contents of this book.......

[Muzna]

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here is an excerpt:

1. As long as the ‘iddah is not completed, it is harâm to carry out the following acts: (a) to apply perfume (b) to scent clothing (c) to wear jewellery and ornaments (d) to wear or suspend flowers (eg. from the hair) (e) to apply surmah (antimony) (f) to redden the mouth by eating betel leaves (g) to rub tooth powder (with the intention of colouring the teeth) (h) to apply oil to the head (i) to comb the hair (j) to apply henna (k) to wear beautiful clothes (l) to wear silk, dyed or colourful clothes. However, if the clothes are not colourful, it will be permissible to wear them irrespective of what colour they may be. The condition is that they must not be clothes that are used to beautify oneself

and some more......

1. The wife can go to visit her parents once a week. She can go to visit all her other relatives once a year. She cannot demand more than this. Similarly, her parents can visit her once a week. The husband has the right to prevent them from coming more often. All her other relatives can visit her once in the year and not more than this. The husband has the right to prevent them from visiting her more often. He can exercise this right over her parents and other relatives as well. It should be borne in mind that relatives in this context refer to those relatives with whom marriage is harâm forever. As for other relatives who do not fall within this category (such as cousins), they will be regarded as absolute strangers.

[khattichic]

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^ and is all this is taken from hadith/sunnah? seriously?

sounds like a bunch of cultural mumbo jumbo to me, not deen

[muqawwee123]

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Behashti Zewar, the ultimate entertainment!

[khattichic]

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btw, i’ve never heard of this book..as far as I know, no one in my family own a copy…I wonder why

[muqawwee123]

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@STA

**It is one of the most popular book of fiqh and cover most common and daily problems of everyday life. Most families owns a copy. This book majorly discusses women. It does contain valuable information for both men and women too.
Yes, I had read it few years ago.

STA seb k murrabe ki recipe post karo.. aajkal baRe ache aur saste seb mil rahe hain Karachi main

[muqawwee123]

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@khattichic

btw, i’ve never heard of this book..as far as I know, no one in my family own a copy…I wonder why

They might getting similar information from Deputy Nazeer Ahmed’s ‘Mirat al Uroos’ - Mirror for the bride

[khattichic]

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@Muzna

here is an excerpt:

2. As long as the ‘iddah is not completed, it is harâm to carry out the following acts:
   (a) to apply perfume
   (b) to scent clothing
   (c) to wear jewellery and ornaments
   (d) to wear or suspend flowers (eg. from the hair)
   (e) to apply surmah (antimony)
   (f) to redden the mouth by eating betel leaves
   (g) to rub tooth powder (with the intention of colouring the teeth)
   (h) to apply oil to the head
   (i) to comb the hair
   (j) to apply henna
   (k) to wear beautiful clothes
   (l) to wear silk, dyed or colourful clothes.
   However, if the clothes are not colourful, it will be permissible to wear them irrespective of what colour they may be. The condition is that they must not be clothes that are used to beautify oneself

and some more…

4. The wife can go to visit her parents once a week. She can go to visit all her other relatives once a year. She cannot demand more
   than this. Similarly, her parents can visit her once a week. The husband has the right to prevent them from coming more often. All her
   other relatives can visit her once in the year and not more than this. The husband has the right to prevent them from visiting her more
   often. He can exercise this right over her parents and other relatives as well. It should be borne in mind that relatives in this context
   refer to those relatives with whom marriage is harâm forever. As for other relatives who do not fall within this category (such as
   cousins), they will be regarded as absolute strangers.

This just keeps getting better and better… :no:

[khattichic]

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@muqawwee123

They might getting similar information from Deputy Nazeer Ahmed’s ‘Mirat al Uroos’ - Mirror for the bride

Ok, I totally had to Google that to understand what you meant

[muqawwee123]

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@khattichic

Ok, I totally had to Google that to understand what you meant

Hence proved that many families disowned Behashti Zewar as well as Mirat al Uroos.

[muqawwee123]

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Khatti likes the above post

[STA]

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@Muzna

here is an excerpt:

2. As long as the ‘iddah is not completed, it is harâm to carry out the following acts:
   (a) to apply perfume
   (b) to scent clothing
   (c) to wear jewellery and ornaments
   (d) to wear or suspend flowers (eg. from the hair)
   (e) to apply surmah (antimony)
   (f) to redden the mouth by eating betel leaves
   (g) to rub tooth powder (with the intention of colouring the teeth)
   (h) to apply oil to the head
   (i) to comb the hair
   (j) to apply henna
   (k) to wear beautiful clothes
   (l) to wear silk, dyed or colourful clothes.
   However, if the clothes are not colourful, it will be permissible to wear them irrespective of what colour they may be. The condition is that they must not be clothes that are used to beautify oneself

and some more…

4. The wife can go to visit her parents once a week. She can go to visit all her other relatives once a year. She cannot demand more
   than this. Similarly, her parents can visit her once a week. The husband has the right to prevent them from coming more often. All her
   other relatives can visit her once in the year and not more than this. The husband has the right to prevent them from visiting her more
   often. He can exercise this right over her parents and other relatives as well. It should be borne in mind that relatives in this context
   refer to those relatives with whom marriage is harâm forever. As for other relatives who do not fall within this category (such as
   cousins), they will be regarded as absolute strangers.

2. do you guys do party during iddat?
   and you left whole other paragraphs of leniency where writer said that women can step out from home if she is sole earner of the family during iddat.

“If the wife of any of you seeks permission to go to the masjid, he may not prevent her.” [Muslim & Bukhari]

This implies, other than that wife supposed to take permission.

“And stay in your homes and do not display yourselves like the ways of the time of ignorance. And establish the prayer, pay the zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger…” [Noble Quran 33:33]

[khattichic]

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I’m too scared to “like” anything anymore..someone will make a meme out of it and post in AV

[Hadeel]

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@khattichic

I’m too scared to “like” anything anymore..someone will make a meme out of it and post in AV

Yeah and you had to think about this right before liking my post. Sigh. :hinna:

[muqawwee123]

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@STA

2. do you guys do party during iddat?
   and you left whole other paragraphs of leniency where writer said that women can step out from home if she is sole earner of the family during iddat.

“If the wife of any of you seeks permission to go to the masjid, he may not prevent her.” [Muslim & Bukhari]
This implies, other than that wife supposed to take permission.

“And stay in your homes and do not display yourselves like the ways of the time of ignorance. And establish the prayer, pay the zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger…” [Noble Quran 33:33]

But where does Quran says that man got right not to allow his wife to meet her parents or vice verse.

Where does Quran asks ladies to cook Halwa for the Bahirwali your husband brings in home so that you can make place in his heart?

[STA]

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But where does Quran says that man got right not to allow his wife to meet her parents or vice verse.

Where does Quran asks ladies to cook Halwa for the Bahirwali your husband brings in home so that you can make place in his heart?

i did mention both. hadith and quran.

[muqawwee123]

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i did mention both. hadith and quran.

But the verse you quoted say stay at your homes. Staying at your homes can only be interpreted by a biased molvi like that. It means stay at your own or parents home IMO.

What about cooking halwa to get place into the husbands heart? A husband who is Harjai?