Behaviour of the Wife

[najeeb786]

Re: Behaviour of the Wife

The thing is that she always discusses her family problems with me, whether small or huge and i have always provided her with advice and have been there for her and her family, even if it means doing the obvious thing and at least being with her family because that is common sense.

I have always been the listener type and want to know about issues so that i can deal with them and InshaAllah resolve them quickly or at least provide an action plan. But this behaviour is difficult to comprehend.

I admit that we have been married for 8 months and have never had an argument, raised our voices etc but this has been a recurring theme and now I do want to get to the bottom of it. It is so stressful as she could randomly say that she is going to her mums or have a face on when i come back from work for no obvious reason at all. It is like I or maybe all the family are stepping on sea shells.

I am InshaAllah going to have another discussion with her either today evening or tomorrow evening. Probably ask the same questions and see whetehr i get any further.

Thank you

@Gaia

This conversation was a good start, but you both have a huge communication gap. There is something bothering her, but she’s not confident enough in you to spill it all out, because what if it doesn’t get resolved, that’s kind of how she’s thinking. So you both have A LOT of these type of conversations waiting to happen in the future.

If you WANT to have a discussion about finances, than you should. If you can’t talk to your wife, than who else? Before you said she’s looking for a job, that’s great on her part.

Overall, all three of you seem to be very understanding of each other, so iA these little problems will get handled. My only advice would be better communication.