Behaviour of the Wife

[Paheli00]

Re: Behaviour of the Wife

@najeeb786

She stated that ‘I do not have that relationship with your mum and why should i bother with formalities’

• She stated that why do people ask me for help e.g. painting. I stated that family is family and so are friends and when they ask you determine whether you can help and you go and assist. She replied but **they have their own partners and you shouldn’t need to help anyone.
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• I asked her regarding her expectations of marriage and she said that she came here and wants her own routine and not to follow a pre-existing one. That she is not a wife from Pakistan and if that is what I wanted then I should have gone back home. She stated that she will do what she wants to do and it is upto her. She isnt a SAHW. I stated that she is as she doesnt want to work, gym or voluntary

• **I asked about making her husband breakfast and she said Islamically I do not have to do anything **and I do enough, which she didn’t get into. But she will make breakfast for me on my working from home day. The other days she can try but not promising anything.

She gave some very good insight in her values/beliefs. How did you make you feel when you heard that your wife believes that she does not need to bother with “formalities” when it comes to your mom? She directly told you that she does not consider your mom her family. She doesn’t want you to provide help for your friends or other family members. Even something as simple as making you breakfast…she sees it as an obligation/favor…she can’t be bothered to do it simply out of love for you. She doesn’t have a job/kids…yet she’s going to throw Islam in your face if you mention her making you breakfast.

What do you think life will be like if you have a child with this woman? What types family values and manners is she going to teach your children? Given how she feels about your mother…how much respect to you think she will teach your children to have for your mom?

@najeeb786

• She then said that she will always go home a week a month and whenever she wants as it is her family and she has a responsibility to visit and when she needs a break she will just go

Again, think about if this is how you want to live the rest of your life. What will happen if your have children?

@najeeb786

Today she woke up, made me breakfast and then said ‘this is your incompetent wife making you breakfast’. Since then she has done everything around the house today.I think she will ask the abroad question again

Did she make any breakfast for you mom? LOL…of course she’s going to bring up Pakistan again. That’s a no brainer.