The wife went over to her parents last weekend and is due to return this weekend, yes she HAD to go back because one parent wasn’t well but i chatted to them the day before and they was nothing wrong with them and since then she definitely didn’t speak to them. Either way I am not concerned about that.
Because she had text me to reconsider what I had said I replied in a long text that nobody should be going due to security and if someone does accompany the mother it should be a male and that i don’t agree with her going because of our marriage issues and we need to discuss our marriage issues when she gets back. I did not want to discuss anything over text or phone.
She stated that what holds you (me) here is what compels me (wife) to accompany my parent and if I was concerned then as I have a little over a weeks annual leave from work I can accompany her and her mum abroad. She was trying to say that i don’t want to go anywhere due to caring for my mother and that is exactly what she is doing by going along with her to Pakistan. I mentioned that I am only here for the sake of our marriage and that we need to have a face to face chat about our issues when she gets back. Also her parents wanted to go for a minimum of four weeks to two months so I do not know what the purpose of me going for 8-9 days with my wife would be as we would end up leaving the mother there?
She finally stated that she will come back on the weekend to discuss any ‘relevant issues’ BUT she is sorry as she will definitely go to Pakistan with her mum.
I just stated that we will discuss all matters when she returns. I did not want to get into any discussion or shouting match.