Re: Behaviour of the Wife
Both people aren’t always on the same page so it is often difficult to see an equal amount of effort put forth at the same time. It is invariably true that at any given time one person in a relationship will be making a greater effort than the other. It may just be that this is the time that Najeeb happens to be that person.
And yes, I agree that discussions and breaks are useless unless there is clear communication, understanding and acceptance of terms. This is precisely why I have recommended that a dialogue be held with the proper tone.
Let’s be honest…there are very few women beyond the age of 15 that don’t know how to be “manipulative”. Whether or not they use this quality in a productive fashion is dependent on the strength of their character. We are obviously dealing with an immature character here. Reacting to it in the same fashion (i.e. laying down an ultimatum that dissolves a relationship) is equally immature IMHO.
Granted.
That still doesn’t mean that we/he has exhausted all the possible avenues to make things work.
I don’t believe that enough has been done and resorting to accepting failure just means that neither person is smarter than the other.