Re: Behaviour of the Wife
I may be incorrect but I believe its a land issue and some case there about ownershipp etc. The only reason she wants to be there is for moral support that someone who genuinely cares for her mother is there with here.
I find it hard to believe that your wife, being a woman, is capable of actually providing “security” for ANYONE in Pakistan! And the mother is visiting relatives there so I’m not sure why the relatives are incapable of looking after her well-being while she’s there. Since this is a VACATION for her mother…it’s her parents responsibility to choose a time when the father or one of the other siblings can go. Heck they can even choose to delay the trip 3-4 more months and plan for your wife to go then…b/c that gives you two enough time to figure out where this marriage is going. If I were you, I would still stick to a “no”.
And since I still think your wife is a spoiled brat who deserves harsh treatment at this point, I’ll copy and paste what I already wrote on a earlier post:
“To be honest, if I were you, I’d simply give her a choice. Tell her that if she wants to continue this marriage, she will not go to Pakistan, and not even bring it up again. But if she goes to Pakistan, then she should take ALL her stuff and never plan on returning to your home. And that the day the plane leaves to Pakistan, you will contact a lawyer and draw up divorce papers. Then see what choice SHE makes. See if she still wants to go to Pakistan even if it means ending her relationship with you.”