Re: Behaviour of the Wife
I know I have asked for a lot of advice on this forum and thank you for your replies but I have one thing more to ask at least.
As I mentioned earlier the wife wanted to go to Pakistan with parents and I said no due to issue that we have and being able to work on those.
She has now basically stated that she is asking me one last time whether she can go as her father cannot go ( i cannot go into this) and her other siblings who work cannot go either, probably cant take time off work is the only reason . She stated that for the sake of her mothers well being and security can she not go with her.
Her mother has gone many times before but always with someone.
People really put you in a predicament.
I strongly disagree with the comments above. Forget the MIL for a moment. What wife (especially a newlywed!) doesn’t get up to offer her HUSBAND breakfast before he goes to work?! Especially if that wife doesn’t work, doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t have any other major household responsibilities! It’s not like she’s staying up until 1:00 a.m. each night washing dinner dishes and cleaning the house.
I agree that it’s her house too now. And that is exactly why she needs to get off her lazy bum and make sure she pulls her own weight. Her husband and MIL work full-time. A mature, reasonable member of the household who does not work would have enough common sense to at least make sure that the other members of the household get some food before they leave for work. She (wife) can easily go back to bed and sleep the rest of the day if she wants to. But NEVER waking up…not even bothering to make sure her HUSBAND has breakfast or even saying “bye” to her MIL as she leaves for work is rude and disrespectful.
Since it’s her house now…what exactly does she need to do before showing her face to her husband and MIL? Brushing teeth/washing face, brushing hair, and changing out of nightgown…how long does it take? I doubt she did anything more than this when she lived with her parents.
As a newlywed woman, this is the time for her to be on her best behavior. While she is adjusting to her new home, she also needs to show her husband and MIL that they didn’t make a mistake by allowing her to be a part of the family. She needs to show them that she knows how to respect the other members living in the same house, she knows how to help her family (MIL and husband are her family now), and that her parents raised her to be a responsible/mature adult. Sleeping in until nooo, visiting her parents house on a weekly basis, and throwing tantrums with her husband is not the way to earn the respect and love of her husband and MIL.