Behaviour of the Wife

[najeeb786]

Re: Behaviour of the Wife

The sulking happened for the day and the next morning she was back to normal as though nothing had happened, must have accepted the reality that she isn’t going abroad.

Since then she is now sulking again as sister in law made a comment to me to which i acknowledged and joked back with her. The wife later mentioned that what she said was wrong to which i said it wasnt wrong but we were busy and started chatting about something else but now she is sulking again over it and i can tell.

I now know i need to address these things as my sister in law has been in my life for twelve years and she is like my sister, we have that relationship, always have and always will. I have no issues with her and she does everything for me and vice versa. Her comments are how we have always been. I would just like to say that how can the Mrs put her opinion across and like she is not happy with my sister in laws behaviour towards me when I am completely happy and more than happy to to thank Allah for giving my family such a daughter/sister in law.

Question is do I acknowledge her sulking and mention what’s wrong, give in to her sulking basically or do I let her sulk. I would like to address it but in an adult way where she brings up the topic without sulking and expecting me to take notice.

@Paheli00

I hope you’re not surprised that nothing has changed since the last conversation b/c that was very predictable.

1. No matter how much she cries or gives you the “silent treatment”, you need to stand your ground and make it clear that you will NOT be ok with her going to Pakistan for 1 MONTH right now. Do NOT give in to her stupid, childish behavior this time. For once stand up for what you want!

2. The fact that she wants to on vacation even after knowing that there are issues in her marriage that making you (ie. her HUSBAND) unhappy…that should really give you a idea on just how little she cares about you and the marriage. You really need to do some serious soul-searching and figure out if you want to spend the rest of your life with a woman who has such little regard for you and your marriage.

** To be honest, if I were you, I’d simply give her a choice. Tell her that if she wants to continue this marriage, she will not go to Pakistan, and not even bring it up again. But if she goes to Pakistan, then she should take ALL her stuff and never plan on returning to your home. And that the day the plane leaves to Pakistan, you will contact a lawyer and draw up divorce papers. Then see what choice SHE makes. See if she still wants to go to Pakistan even if it means ending her relationship with you.